Sorry I keep using this thread as a ventzone, but...I'm gonna do it again anyway.
I work at a bar, and my coworker kinda fucked me over last night - she got so drunk she left all the closing work to me, and left early with some guy. I'm pretty furious, and now need to talk to her about it. It's not the first time stuff like this has happened, but it's certainly the worst incident. My other coworker and I have discussed it before, and she had planned to say something to the perpetually drunk lady, but never did. We want to resolve it before the manager finds out how much she's drinking and gets involved.
To make matters worse, I'm kind of borderline in love w the drunk lady, though last night killed so much of my respect for her that I think I may finally be able to start getting over it.
Anyway. Huge mess, and I hate confrontation, and can't quite figure out what to say or how to say it - in person before work? During work? Phone call? Text? Fuck.
I'm thinking if I avoid hanging out with her outside work, and try to minimize the more personal interactions we have at work for a couple weeks, it should pass, at least for the most part.
I told a good friend about her a couple weeks ago, and she straight up told me to run tf away from all those red flags. She also told me to get tf away from my last girlfriend, and was 100% correct about that - my dumb ass held on for another 6 months, and hated the entirety of it -so should probably listen to her this time.
What’s worked best for me is before work where it’s just the two of you. Explaining what bothered and what will happen the next time this occurs. I usually sweetin it up at the end to leave on a positive note.
honestly, I like these kinds of posts in the megathread. it makes the whole site feel more human and connected.
Anyway. Huge mess, and I hate confrontation, and can’t quite figure out what to say or how to say it - in person before work? During work? Phone call? Text? Fuck.
fuck is definitely the wrong answer. I'd do whatever is most common for you both - you want nice and safe neutral ground.
Thanks, I really appreciate that people take the time to read and respond to my nonsense. It's helpful.
Definitely not gonna fuck lol. Not the right move at this juncture. If some day she gets a handle on her rather unhealthy relationship w alcohol, and I find a way to deal w my depression, maybe then.
Sorry I keep using this thread as a ventzone, but...I'm gonna do it again anyway.
I work at a bar, and my coworker kinda fucked me over last night - she got so drunk she left all the closing work to me, and left early with some guy. I'm pretty furious, and now need to talk to her about it. It's not the first time stuff like this has happened, but it's certainly the worst incident. My other coworker and I have discussed it before, and she had planned to say something to the perpetually drunk lady, but never did. We want to resolve it before the manager finds out how much she's drinking and gets involved.
To make matters worse, I'm kind of borderline in love w the drunk lady, though last night killed so much of my respect for her that I think I may finally be able to start getting over it.
Anyway. Huge mess, and I hate confrontation, and can't quite figure out what to say or how to say it - in person before work? During work? Phone call? Text? Fuck.
glad it killed the attraction in the crib
always better to lose feelings when you realize someone’s shit
I'm thinking if I avoid hanging out with her outside work, and try to minimize the more personal interactions we have at work for a couple weeks, it should pass, at least for the most part.
actively reason yourself through why it’d never work, too
once you remind yourself of that it becomes a lot easier
I told a good friend about her a couple weeks ago, and she straight up told me to run tf away from all those red flags. She also told me to get tf away from my last girlfriend, and was 100% correct about that - my dumb ass held on for another 6 months, and hated the entirety of it -so should probably listen to her this time.
What’s worked best for me is before work where it’s just the two of you. Explaining what bothered and what will happen the next time this occurs. I usually sweetin it up at the end to leave on a positive note.
Yeah, this sounds like the best idea. Maybe see if she can come a bit early to chat.
honestly, I like these kinds of posts in the megathread. it makes the whole site feel more human and connected.
fuck is definitely the wrong answer. I'd do whatever is most common for you both - you want nice and safe neutral ground.
Thanks, I really appreciate that people take the time to read and respond to my nonsense. It's helpful.
Definitely not gonna fuck lol. Not the right move at this juncture. If some day she gets a handle on her rather unhealthy relationship w alcohol, and I find a way to deal w my depression, maybe then.
hey, I post personal shit in the megathread every few days :)
good luck!