I'm increasingly becoming unironically volcel. Every time I get horny, I simply deny my programming, firmly remind myself of my volcel oath, and do something more productive, haha. I haven't had sex in almost 9 months and lately I genuinely feel better about myself for it. There's no anxiety over sexually disappointing and no hollow feeling when contact inevitably fizzles out afterwards.

I feel like I have so many better things I could be doing than dating or chasing sex and in coming to that conclusion I've also stumbled my way into a sense of motivation and initiative I didn't know I had.

I'm curious if others have experienced something similar and are willing to discuss it. Anyone else unironically embracing their volcel oath? Lmfao

    • EthicalHumanMeat [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      A buddy of mine did nofap because he thought it was like a t-break for weed, but for cumming.

      • Bedulge [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        That totally works for me. Doing no fap for even a couple days makes real sex feel so much better.

    • BreadandRoses76 [he/him,comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      It pisses me off that nofap and abstinence from porn has been co-opted by the reactionaries because I am one-hundred percent certain that in the future we are going to look back on widespread internet pornography as a major health crisis.

      • AlexandairBabeuf [they/them]
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        4 years ago

        do you have any idea how much people were cranking it before the internet, dude? there were porn theaters. porn. theaters.

        before video even, take a stroll down analog erotica lane sometime. ever since the printing press we've been dirty dirty dirty

        • BreadandRoses76 [he/him,comrade/them]
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          4 years ago

          But none of that compared to the staggering amount of high-speed internet porn that's available to people today, especially to young children. Its not really the idea of pornographic material itself, just the modern iteration that is so widely available.

          • AlexandairBabeuf [they/them]
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            4 years ago

            is it though? you were 5 minutes away from a dirty magazine at any given time in the past century. 'finding dad's porn' was a trope for decades, be it video or paper.

            • BreadandRoses76 [he/him,comrade/them]
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              4 years ago

              But a single dirty magazine doesn't compare to the psychological affect of being exposed to a literally endless torrent of porn that caters to absolutely any fantasy or fetish. Its not that porn didn't exist in the past, but it has never been so widespread and easy to use. At the very least I know it ruins my mental health and ability to be intimate lol.

              • AlexandairBabeuf [they/them]
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                4 years ago

                there wasn't a single dirty mag everyone shared, all your fetishes and fantasies were developed decades ago and you could find that shit at a store. there was nothing stopping people from overconsuming and having intimacy problems then either.

                  • LibsEatPoop [any]
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                    4 years ago

                    maybe. but the same is true for everything else and has been true for generations. like, there were people criticizing tv before the internet was a thing, and the radio before tv. i think people also used to criticize newspapers. and was it plato or aristotle (some greek philosopher) who was mad that kids were using slate and not just memorizing everything.