For me personally, there was a time I did long distance with a guy, and we would watch movies together split screening with our webcams, and sometimes I'd take my clothes off and play with myself and just sort of watch his reaction. It's be like a game to see how much I could distract him, and maybe he'd start getting himself off to it which was always super hot. Idk, I think if you can get a really good dynamic going where it's sort of casual but still sexy it can be great. Might just be down to individual tastes.