They also took her car we both saved up to get and want a fuckton of money we don't have to get it out of impound. She just got her current job after getting fired from the last one for being trans, and now has probably lost it due to getting arrested again. She hasn't even gotten the first check yet.

On the upside, this is the first time they let her have her medication while in jail.

I wish there was some way to get cops to stop harrasing her. They are fine when I'm with her, they think I'm some good old boy, but I can't be with her all the time and it's so stressful. Whenever she has to borrow my truck, I constantly gets calls from cops asking if it's stolen.

The place I normally vent to about this kinda shit gotten taken over by fascists, so I don't even have that anymore.

At least the guy waiting in line next to me at the jail was starting to open his eyes. Old blue collar dude, we talked about how covid has exposed America for what it really is, and it's nothing to be proud of actually. He was just realizing that.

  • CantTrip [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    Oh fuck comrade I'm sorry. I was arrested long after getting clean on the bullshit 'we found something suspicious in your car' which they searched because dogs signaled, who were brought because I "seemed nervous." It was a weekend morning. My boyfriend was sleeping in so I took the car to get donuts and run by the dollar store - it was rare for me to go off alone at that time. $300 to get the car out.

    So my boyfriend was you.

    We also went through a post-traumatic phase where we both preferred I not go anywhere alone. I felt - and still feel - that if I get pulled over, it's game over. They see the history of addiction and find a way to find "something." It's stressful to always go together, stressful to worry when you're apart.

    But at least my history is something I made some choices to create - your gf being trans is just an inherent quality of who she is.

    Fuck all of that. I hope things get better. Know that PTSD, stress, anxiety, anger, is 100% a common and reasonable reaction and may last a long time. Talk to each other about how you're feeling (as soon as you can). You guys are tough, your gf is hella tough with the things she's been through.

    Things get better the longer you get from being totally justice non- involved. One thing that helps is even though we're poor, we save to an emergency fund, so if I get fucked over again the financial element can't be held over us. That's empowering and stress relieving.