What happens sometimes is that cis people only use they/them for a trans woman because they're uncomfortable with referring to her with she/her, which is... pretty shitty
yeah, and thats not cool at all, those people are terfs and get the wall. refer to folks by their prefered pronoun.
using they/them rather than a potentially wrong gendered pronoun as a default term is fine, but efforts should be made to find out the prefered terms of any person youre interacting with so that you can correctly gender them, was my point.
What happens sometimes is that cis people only use they/them for a trans woman because they're uncomfortable with referring to her with she/her, which is... pretty shitty
yeah, and thats not cool at all, those people are terfs and get the wall. refer to folks by their prefered pronoun.
using they/them rather than a potentially wrong gendered pronoun as a default term is fine, but efforts should be made to find out the prefered terms of any person youre interacting with so that you can correctly gender them, was my point.