If you thought you were a true ally, maybe it's time for some introspection.

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    I consider myself pretty open in that I'll date trans women, but for me to be attracted to that person, they really need feminine traits (kind of like Blaire White -- her personality bites, but looks-wise, right up my alley). So if say I'm attracted to roughly 50% of the women I come across, but maybe like 5% of the trans women I encounter, is that a form of transphobia?

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        I don't like your energy.

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            That's not what I said. I said attracted to 5%. I've bartended for years and been around the club scene in a very liberal area, so this isn't a new thing. It just so happens that a small minority have what it takes for me to flip the switch in my head. I always thought I was one of the good guys, but reading this thread is kinda humbling.

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              Cis lesbian here. I have a higher percentage than you but I guess my taste in cis women would be different from yours too. This thread is humbling. You’re not a bad person; but I do suggest you reconsider framing it at “feminine traits” as that comes across hurtfully and transphobic, and also to....

              Wolf of Wall Street voice: pump 👏 those 👏 numbers 👏 up