• autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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      4 years ago

      My only hesitation here is that a lot of people are going to consider neurodivergent people "weird" at first impression and that that reaction is one that should be fought rather than followed unquestioningly.

      Like I absolutely support following your gut when it comes to this but.... I guess this is one of those areas where I feel that feminism that anti-ableism don't intersect perfectly cleanly.

      • Rem [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        This is very true, thanks for raising the point. At the end of the day "weird" is such a clumsy word that it's probably not a good universal benchmark for evaluating someone as a romantic or sexual partner.

    • DivineChaos100 [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      Counterpoint: Giving anyone a chance (that is trying to get to know them) is about basic respect and is cool and good.

      • SteveHasBunker [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        I think there’s a middle ground here. Writing someone totally off cuz they gave a weird first impression is probably not a great practice, if only cuz you maybe denying yourself a good connection. But on the flip side, if they’re a decent person who’s just awkward and weird it should become apparent quick. If you still get weirdo vibes an hour or two in their probably just weird.

        • DivineChaos100 [none/use name]
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          4 years ago

          I advocated for the middle ground though but for some reason "giving someone a chance" always gets interpreted as "have sex with them" (probably because a lot of incels mean it that way).

      • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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        4 years ago

        Giving people a chance is about getting to know them not letting them fuck you