My only hesitation here is that a lot of people are going to consider neurodivergent people "weird" at first impression and that that reaction is one that should be fought rather than followed unquestioningly.
Like I absolutely support following your gut when it comes to this but.... I guess this is one of those areas where I feel that feminism that anti-ableism don't intersect perfectly cleanly.
This is very true, thanks for raising the point. At the end of the day "weird" is such a clumsy word that it's probably not a good universal benchmark for evaluating someone as a romantic or sexual partner.
I think there’s a middle ground here. Writing someone totally off cuz they gave a weird first impression is probably not a great practice, if only cuz you maybe denying yourself a good connection. But on the flip side, if they’re a decent person who’s just awkward and weird it should become apparent quick. If you still get weirdo vibes an hour or two in their probably just weird.
I advocated for the middle ground though but for some reason "giving someone a chance" always gets interpreted as "have sex with them" (probably because a lot of incels mean it that way).
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Very cool that this is considered being lucky
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I mean, relationships are a grab bag, particularly at a young age.
My only hesitation here is that a lot of people are going to consider neurodivergent people "weird" at first impression and that that reaction is one that should be fought rather than followed unquestioningly.
Like I absolutely support following your gut when it comes to this but.... I guess this is one of those areas where I feel that feminism that anti-ableism don't intersect perfectly cleanly.
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Yeah I knew what you meant I just thought it was important to point out that "weird" has other connotations.
This is very true, thanks for raising the point. At the end of the day "weird" is such a clumsy word that it's probably not a good universal benchmark for evaluating someone as a romantic or sexual partner.
Counterpoint: Giving anyone a chance (that is trying to get to know them) is about basic respect and is cool and good.
I think there’s a middle ground here. Writing someone totally off cuz they gave a weird first impression is probably not a great practice, if only cuz you maybe denying yourself a good connection. But on the flip side, if they’re a decent person who’s just awkward and weird it should become apparent quick. If you still get weirdo vibes an hour or two in their probably just weird.
I advocated for the middle ground though but for some reason "giving someone a chance" always gets interpreted as "have sex with them" (probably because a lot of incels mean it that way).
Giving people a chance is about getting to know them not letting them fuck you
See my other reply two comments under this one.