Also I just gotta say as a gay dude that I didn't totally see what the moral outrage was over porn and then I saw what the straight people are doing and Jesus Christ it's fucked up. I'm never shocked now when I hear a former performer complain about a lack of safety, respect, or consent on set. Gay stuff has its massive problems too but holy fuck it's like a sexual assault factory on the straight side.
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I remember reading that porn is the basic form of 'ceci n'est pas une pipe', in that you have to remember it's a very visual representation, devoid of the sensations, the thoughts inside those participating, smell, touch and so on. Someone suggested that it's why kink is so overrepped, because visually BDSM is so beautiful.