Also I just gotta say as a gay dude that I didn't totally see what the moral outrage was over porn and then I saw what the straight people are doing and Jesus Christ it's fucked up. I'm never shocked now when I hear a former performer complain about a lack of safety, respect, or consent on set. Gay stuff has its massive problems too but holy fuck it's like a sexual assault factory on the straight side.
Stopped consuming porn after seeing a post with statistics about how common abuse and lack of consent are (e.g. an actress agreeing to xyz but then being pressured to do something extra halfway through the shoot, being told she won't get paid at all if she refuses). I'm sure there's ethically produced porn too, but I can't be bothered doing the research.. or paying for it lol. Plus tbh I prefer written erotica anyway sooo
I also think it's pretty hard to separate depictions of women in porn from our patriarchal society: that is, I feel like a lot of porn depicts the degradation of women because of the society we live in, but then those depictions definitely help perpetuate it. It feels like a cycle. To me, porn as a concept is neutral, but porn in our fucked up society is mostly negative.