yes. then you go to "lets make sure there are no other solutions, go over it, then, if we can't find anything, yeah it might be time to go"

most of the time people are looking for connection, and starting with the socially prescribed script and ridgid socially prescribed values (from the society that likely caused all this pain in the first place and likely seem inescapable) pushed onto someone in such a way as to deprive them of any choice but the last one, that's, like; the literal stupidest thing you can do.