but I feel we may be too radical and ban-happy to become that.

Good. The way the world works is that difference builds up meaning, not similarity. If people who feel left are seeing we have more exact positions about what is to be done they will be aware of it, even if they take time to get there themselves.

I still see that people are welcomed and if people are new they get a lot of slack, but not in the sense of accepting problematic behavior, but calling them out and saying: You can still be part of this.