happened this saturday. i usually write stuff like this a bit earlier than this, but i was a bit busy and i wasnt bothered to make a post about it. i woke up very late (2PM) cos i had a dnd game with my online friends that lasted well into the night. apparently when they woke me up and told me to come upstairs to have lunch i told them off, but i dont really have recollection of that. after that they went on a tangent about how i am never grateful, i never help, im never there with them, and so on. after a while of just taking it (while still in bed), i break out, crying in my pillow, i threaten them to call my therapist, which they thought was a stupid idea, they told me i had no good reason to cry. they then kept talking about random unrelated stuff they dont like about me (how i have long hair, how i prefer my online friends to my school friends (who according to them arent "real friends", cos those ones are only irl and if they can help you or something like that), how i should be prohibited to talk with them or use my pc past midnight (im 18??), how i wasnt able to study abroad for long enough for mental reasons, etc). the only person who came to like atleast tell me it's all going to be fine was my brother who comforted and hugged me for a few minutes while i was still shaking and blowing my nose.
i dont really know what to do. i dont get why they act so cruel. they are usually nice people. they hug me, and generally look loving, but they also sometimes just berate me with shit like this and downplay my emotions. i want to leave my house but im also very scared of living alone. i feel like i couldnt survive without them but i also cant survive with them. i want to say im their child so i deserve a bit more love, but im also an adult so they might as well throw me out. i dont really know if you can say they really do love me, cos this seems a pretty bad approach to it. i dont even know if they realize how much im in pain for this or they just want to irrationally/egoistically let anger out on me.
sorry for the too-much-info rant again. i hope i can talk about this to my therapist soon. she do be having covid tho, so no time soon. i dont really expect advice (but keep that coming if you have to), more a bit of venting space if that's possible.
yes fuck the family, abolish it and build communism instead. Alexandra Kollontai was woke on this.
My experience with family has and always will be reactionary. It just feels like it's another tool used to keep us atomized and alienated from each other, from communities at large.
you know that saying "it takes a village to raise a child", well it's fucking true and in normal non-capitalist alienated communities kids would have a bunch of parental figures to talk to and rely instead of the two random assholes who fucked each other.
I don't think it's an accident how the american nuclear family has led to more consumer spending because there is less communal use items, every 4 person unit needs to buy their own suite of toasters and cars and dishwashers.
Love this saying. Honestly my life would be so much better off if I had a tight knight community to fall back on than my family. Like with my family, sure there's help, but you're guilt tripped if you take it. They love to hold it over your head and make you feel like a piece of shit for asking. Like I have no clue what it feels like to get help with no strings attached.