I lied that I wanted to repeat it because I didn’t want to make her feel bad and I didn’t want it to seem fake but I don’t really and if she texts me again I kinda don’t want to go because I think I’ll just be sad afterwards but I probably will anyways and find a way to kinda distance things in a way that is not too disappointing…
That's a super rough situation and exactly where I found myself with the other person.. Thankfully I kinda lucked out by covid developing and me moving in the interim so it just kinda drifted apart, but it is really tough to try and find a way that isn't hurtful yet effective. I find honesty is the core of such responses, so long as its not overly-brutal honesty. As in 'I really appreciate the interest and what we shared so far, but I feel like it would be hurtful if it went further as my head and heart isn't really into it to the point they should be to make this a good experience for everyone involved'.
That's a super rough situation and exactly where I found myself with the other person.. Thankfully I kinda lucked out by covid developing and me moving in the interim so it just kinda drifted apart, but it is really tough to try and find a way that isn't hurtful yet effective. I find honesty is the core of such responses, so long as its not overly-brutal honesty. As in 'I really appreciate the interest and what we shared so far, but I feel like it would be hurtful if it went further as my head and heart isn't really into it to the point they should be to make this a good experience for everyone involved'.