• Abraxiel
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      4 years ago

      Friends, friends of friends, hobbies, and jobs, mostly.

      • hexaflexagonbear [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Honestly think that people working more and being more stressed, causing other social relationships to collapse (fewer friendships, less time for hobbies and leisure) are more to blame than the rise tinder.

        • Dewot523 [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          Don't forget about the collapse of religion, especially the "weekly church goer" type of congregant. It's a fuck but religion used to basically serve as a two hour weekly socially-mandatory social club.

          • LeninWalksTheWorld [any]
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            4 years ago

            Well if the divorce rate of boomers is anything to go by, what they did to meet was not such a good idea either

        • Multihedra [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          I don’t think it has to be causal for the tinder stuff to be relevant and insightful. The increased commodification and encroachment of markets into all aspects of life seems very related to both the modern (global north) working conditions and rise in app-mediated approaches to dating and relationship building.

          I would assume all of these things are paving the way for others to develop more fully

        • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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          4 years ago

          I'm not sure if it's less time for leisure, or the way that leisure is increasingly something people do alone. (e.g. the dozens and dozens of TV shows that people somehow keep up with)

    • HogWild [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      On the street, in the supermarket, on the train...

      "Hey, sorry to bother you, but I saw you standing there, and I think you're really cute. Wanna tell me your name?"

      Most girls liked being approached if you were genuine. What most of them were looking for in a man, above all, was confidence, and maybe being easy to be around.

      • MeatfuckerDidNothing [they/them]
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        4 years ago

        no offense but that has immediate "find the nearest exit" vibes

        If that works for you and doesn't make women uncomfortable you do you, but uh... I would be concerned if a man did that to me

        • LeninWalksTheWorld [any]
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          4 years ago

          No with the apps you are expected to commodify yourself, make a profile a so on. I guess we do that to an extent in our daily lives through fashion or whatever but the app environment functions a lot more like a literal human marketplace. There's "chance"/fate in meeting that makes romance romantic