I always find it strange how they always talk about how hard it is for men to get laid but never how hard it is for ladies to find a partner. Like, all the dudes that have come on to me have either been super controlling, misogynistic or just plain dangerously violent (not trying to call out my male comrades, it's probably just been my bad luck I'm not saying you're all like this) but apparently it's men having a hard time finding a partner? IDFK there just seems to be this old fashioned attitude still around that "lol women have it easy and can get laid whenever. Poor men can't catch a break." You're not the only ones having trouble ffs
Rating people on a scale from 1-10 is such a disgusting mindset. For me my attraction kinda depends on mood. I might feel one way one day, and another way another day.
This is why Tinder must be destroyed. We need comprehensive relationship education, not just comprehensive sex education. We need places to socialize as well, and more time to do so.
Anyone unironically whining about le poor oppressed men in today's dating game sets all the alarms in my head, but given the meme was talking about men I understand why all the comments were talking about men.
I always find it strange how they always talk about how hard it is for men to get laid but never how hard it is for ladies to find a partner
It's genuinely not as hard for women though. This graph has a version which includes women too, and the rise is much, much smaller for them. Women are facing a different issue, which is that they often end up with horrible assholes, men are facing the issue of being unable to find anyone interested in them, and ESPECIALLY anyone they are also interested in. There's this admission among many guys that they just simply won't be able to date someone they really like so they have to "compromise". If you're a girl and someone shows interest, that's mundane. If you're a guy, it's lucky af.
If my own personal experience is anything to go by theres probably a portion of dudes trying "to do the right thing" by getting financially stable and having a place of their own with a good job before starting to try and date. Which in this capitalist hell hole is becoming so increasingly difficult by the time thats achieved they've been out of the game so long its like, where tf do i even start? I had a chance over a year ago to get my own place finally and then covid happened. Sure as shit not getting my own place after my job fired 10% of the workforce. Not taking that risk. Now im just trying to get stable with a new job. lol. Its one delay after the other. Like where do you even start when you get to early 30s and haven't tried dating someone since HS? lol.
"Women or enbies dating cis men is proof that sexuality isn't a choice"
My perspective with men is only from them hitting on me and my friends dating them, but the bar is so damn low.
Hitting on me wise- Feels like theyre trying to ritually summon a date and not engage with me as a person, and this includes the non-creepy guys. Even hyper awkward women engage me as a person
Dating wise: men act like children. They don't understand the concept of the second shift of labor.
Thats why I said I don't think all men are like this and I just have had bad luck. I have many trustworthy, great men in my life. My best friend in the world is male. It's just I don't think any of them want to date me lol. I'm very awkward especially around romance.
I don't usually pursue relationships myself. Like I said I'm very socially awkward and on top of that I'm not really looking for a relationship. So I haven't really come on to any guys lol.
The thing is, when I say violent, I mean violent. I once had a guy ask me out out of the blue and when I said "No thank you I'm not dating" He proceeded to follow me home without me noticing, and then began to loudly bang on my door and scream at me to come out until I called the police.
That's the kind of shit I mean, as well as worse stuff that I don't want to talk about.
I hope it didn't sound like I was lumping socially awkward dudes in with actual dangerous people. Sorry if it sounded like that.
I don’t know, I guess I’m not making sense, I’m sorry.
No no, you're fine. I just read into things the wrong way sometimes, I think I understand now what you mean, You're pretty much right, I just wanted to be a bit clearer with what I meant.
I always find it strange how they always talk about how hard it is for men to get laid but never how hard it is for ladies to find a partner. Like, all the dudes that have come on to me have either been super controlling, misogynistic or just plain dangerously violent (not trying to call out my male comrades, it's probably just been my bad luck I'm not saying you're all like this) but apparently it's men having a hard time finding a partner? IDFK there just seems to be this old fashioned attitude still around that "lol women have it easy and can get laid whenever. Poor men can't catch a break." You're not the only ones having trouble ffs
Women can get laid whenever they want... if they're willing to put themselves in extremely dangerous situations with men who have bad intentions.
Also if they spend a bunch of time and money poodleing themselves up.
As a non-binary I hate looking super feminine so the struggle is real :deeper-sadness:
depends how ugly/old of a guy you're willing to take to bed with you lol
but yeah I getcha
dolling up seems like a fuckin nightmare
at most I might trim me tache
Lmao, I get ya, but a lot of ugly dudes want "tens", have you ever visited an incel forum?
Rating people on a scale from 1-10 is such a disgusting mindset. For me my attraction kinda depends on mood. I might feel one way one day, and another way another day.
Agreed. I hate when people are treated like products
This is why Tinder must be destroyed. We need comprehensive relationship education, not just comprehensive sex education. We need places to socialize as well, and more time to do so.
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you do not want to trade for that
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you and me both buddy lol. It's only human I guess.
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That fucking sucks. No one should settle for abuse. :deeper-sadness:
Anyone unironically whining about le poor oppressed men in today's dating game sets all the alarms in my head, but given the meme was talking about men I understand why all the comments were talking about men.
It's genuinely not as hard for women though. This graph has a version which includes women too, and the rise is much, much smaller for them. Women are facing a different issue, which is that they often end up with horrible assholes, men are facing the issue of being unable to find anyone interested in them, and ESPECIALLY anyone they are also interested in. There's this admission among many guys that they just simply won't be able to date someone they really like so they have to "compromise". If you're a girl and someone shows interest, that's mundane. If you're a guy, it's lucky af.
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If my own personal experience is anything to go by theres probably a portion of dudes trying "to do the right thing" by getting financially stable and having a place of their own with a good job before starting to try and date. Which in this capitalist hell hole is becoming so increasingly difficult by the time thats achieved they've been out of the game so long its like, where tf do i even start? I had a chance over a year ago to get my own place finally and then covid happened. Sure as shit not getting my own place after my job fired 10% of the workforce. Not taking that risk. Now im just trying to get stable with a new job. lol. Its one delay after the other. Like where do you even start when you get to early 30s and haven't tried dating someone since HS? lol.
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There is this joke that
"Women or enbies dating cis men is proof that sexuality isn't a choice"
My perspective with men is only from them hitting on me and my friends dating them, but the bar is so damn low.
Hitting on me wise- Feels like theyre trying to ritually summon a date and not engage with me as a person, and this includes the non-creepy guys. Even hyper awkward women engage me as a person
Dating wise: men act like children. They don't understand the concept of the second shift of labor.
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(CW: stalking)
Thats why I said I don't think all men are like this and I just have had bad luck. I have many trustworthy, great men in my life. My best friend in the world is male. It's just I don't think any of them want to date me lol. I'm very awkward especially around romance.
I don't usually pursue relationships myself. Like I said I'm very socially awkward and on top of that I'm not really looking for a relationship. So I haven't really come on to any guys lol.
The thing is, when I say violent, I mean violent. I once had a guy ask me out out of the blue and when I said "No thank you I'm not dating" He proceeded to follow me home without me noticing, and then began to loudly bang on my door and scream at me to come out until I called the police.
That's the kind of shit I mean, as well as worse stuff that I don't want to talk about.
I hope it didn't sound like I was lumping socially awkward dudes in with actual dangerous people. Sorry if it sounded like that.
😥 That shit sucks. Why are some dudes like this? I blame romantic comedies.
I dunno, maybe I'm lame and only attract horrible people. :sadness:
I dunno owls are cute. :owl-wink:
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I'm fine, thank you :meow-hug:
No no, you're fine. I just read into things the wrong way sometimes, I think I understand now what you mean, You're pretty much right, I just wanted to be a bit clearer with what I meant.