Themfor [any]

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Cake day: August 18th, 2020

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  • Themfor [any]toaskchapoGood leftist youtube channels?
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    4 years ago

    I think Shaun (formerly Shaun and Jen) might be the only true leftist I watch. I enjoy Pop Culture Detective, Some More News, and Three Arrows quite a bit and can recommend them. But you do have to be careful with some of these kinds of channels to not fool yourself into thinking that they're leftists just because they're critiquing the status quo.



  • "no mention on why you said this dismissive cringe"

    Again, your dishonest argumentative tactics are not helpful. You are not responding to every line I have written but you expect me to do so for you. Hardly fair. But I will continue to generously humor you and explain that it was a blithe comment about how your attitude seems to indicate you've never had to forgive someone you love for anything serious, nor need such forgiveness for yourself. Otherwise I would expect you to be more understanding about how otherwise decent people can do shitty things. I am sorry if I offended you, though you betray yourself in hyper-focusing on the one thing I said that even could be interpreted as offensive, whereas you, on the other hand, have said a laundry list of far more offensive things to me that I have somehow managed to brush off.

    "Literally when did I even comment on whether she should leave the relationship or not."

    I'm hoping you're being disingenuous here. You have called her boyfriend a "misogynist" and a "bad person" whose problems go beyond "character flaws." Yet you are going to impossibly claim that you don't think she should leave him? If so you are being pedantic, as the only option you are leaving open is for her to choose to stay with someone she now knows to be a bad person and a misogynist. What kind of choice is that? Whether yours is literally one of them or not, the chorus of voices on reddit are only going to serve to shame her should she not illogically choose to continue her stable, long-term relationship.

    "And this makes you unable to call out misogyny? Damn. Feminism is not when women and non binary folk do something. Your first comment wasn’t feminist and none of your replies have been feminist. So where does this come from?"

    I barely can grasp at an understanding of what you are saying here. In the very first line of my reply I agreed with you that misogyny is playing a part here. I disagree with your labelling of him as a misogynist, and further don't understand how you believe it to be helpful to the conversation and what you hope to achieve by doing so.

    Where does what come from?

    I am sorry you don't consider me or my replies to be feminist, but don't worry, that was already clear from your wild accusations two posts ago. Fortunately for me you are not the pope of feminism. For my part I haven't found your replies to be particularly feminist either, though I don't know how simply stating that is helpful.



  • Themfor [any]tomain*Permanently Deleted*
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    4 years ago

    Total Cold War "gap" rhetoric. Doesn't matter how much more or more expensive shit the US has, the enemy is always right on our heels.



  • OK, it's a misogynistic reaction. Now what? We live in a misogynistic society, and obviously this guy also grew up steeped in it as much as anyone else. That doesn't make him a misogynist. Maybe he is, but we have only this one piece of evidence against him, and her saying he's "never been anything less than supportive" for four years in his favor.

    If I sound like a chud, you sound like a reactionary essentialist. I don't know if you're young, inexperienced, or simply hold a very dualistic view of the world, but not everything is black and white. People are not simply good or bad. Sometimes people need forgiveness, and part of the process of forgiving is understanding why they did what they did. Sure, maybe he will stick with this reaction, end the relationship, and go on being shitty. But since it seems like this had just happened, and based on the length of their relationship, discussion of marriage, etc. I think it actually far more likely that he will apologize and come back. All the advice telling her that he is a misogynist and to move on is premature at best, and will only cause her more hurt and shame in the long run, since she is obviously set on continuing the relationship with him. Literally the only question she actually asked was, "What do I even say to him to try and fix this?"

    Which is why I find your invocation of "feminism" so ironic. Despite being a feminist, you seem to think that what women need is more people telling them what to do and think. If she had brought this story forward as a reason for wanting to leave this man and was looking for confirmation that she was justified and not crazy, then fine. But I fail to see given the actual context how telling her that she is wrong followed by what she should actually want to do and be doing is feminism (or even productive for that matter). I prefer a kind of feminism that involves listening to women, being supportive, and dealing with them on their own terms. I don't know her, him, or them as a couple; all I have is her short post. Why would I presume to know what was best for her, especially when that kind of advice was not even what she was asking for? Which is why I said I appreciated the highlighted reply for at least attempting to respond to her actual question. Most everyone else seems to be gleefully offering her revenge plots against the sender or counseling her to leave her boyfriend a la father knows best.

    In any case, your argumentative style that relies on personal attacks and putting words in my mouth does you no favors. It's clear you have no intention of engaging with me honestly, nor any real interest in listening to me or my opinions. I leave a response here only for internet posterity.






  • Themfor [any]tomain*Permanently Deleted*
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    4 years ago

    Red Maga...err just Maga I guess.

    Seriously why are both parties so obsessed with everything being some super complicated conspiracy?