clover [she/her]

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Cake day: September 25th, 2020

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  • I don’t post here anymore because I’m busy being GAY, but I need somewhere to vent after a fresh round of unfriends/blocks from some former childhood friends

    some sexual harassment stuff

    One sentence story: getting accused of sexually harassment for flirting with my girlfriend by a guy who is at least 0 for 4 with women, who wanted to visit his egirl crush unannounced in the middle of our roadtrip, who messaged a mutual friend about how her selfie got him hard.

    Good riddance, asshole






  • some trans sex drive talks, questions about hrt and sex

    So like obviously everyone’s different but I wanted to hear any thoughts the trans folk of hexbear have:

    I can start HRT relatively soon but my partner and I have some concerns about how that could affect my sex drive when they come to see me during the holidays. I have what I can only describe as a really healthy “male” libido - I have times when I’m really horny, and when I’m not, I can usually get there pretty fast and easily. I guess you could call us both some degree of hypersexual? They’re pretty similar.

    So of course I expect something there to change on HRT, but it’s really hard to imagine. As things are now, despite being generally horny, it is difficult to get off and really want it those occasions when I’m physically with my partner (it’s long distance). I chalk it up to dysphoria and being really aware of myself and my parts during sex. My partner understandably can’t help but feel bad and undesired sometimes - like they know what’s up and all; it still sucks sometimes. I think I’d be the same way.

    I feel like things could be better on HRT even if it’s too early for any crazy physical changes, but it would really suck if somehow it’s worse than before. Like we can still have a good time and we’re doing pretty well with the challenges that already exist. It’s tough - I don’t really want to put this off longer but I also want to fuck and have fun, lol. Thoughts?





  • clover [she/her]tochapotraphouse*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 year ago

    chapo has done a lot to put words to my general frustration with politics and such in the leadup to and immediate aftermath of 2016. Cushman was probably the biggest part of that (big ups to his Charlottesville rant) and I really hope he pulls through and everything comes out okay. Would like homie to see his daughter and hold her.







  • COVIDheads - I’m flying a ways soon for the first time since the pandemic started. Keep hearing about a summer wave. Is it worth masking (N95) on the flights when likely no one else is? People will kill themselves and others I guess - I’m just asking if it would help me avoid infection at all. Hmm, probably should’ve boosted but now it’s probably too late to do it and get the full benefit before I go.



  • couple from a friend group I just cut myself out of liked the same tweet thread I did about "relationships are not nonconfrontational and challenge free" and direct communication > ghosting

    I left because the confrontations wouldn't stop and were fucking me mentally, and communicating this was met with "we never meant to alienate you" and "sometimes relationships wax and wane"

    They both specifically ignored the follow up tweet that spoke against one party doing all the work, that said accountability goes both ways. Clueless 👍


  • what is the reason behind gating financial aid behind full time registration

    what if I have ADHD and the disability office wants me to take a test for $1k I don't have before offering me accommodations so I'm stuck taking 6 credits max a semester to give myself a chance at actually passing something? No money for me I guess, get fucked loser


  • It's definitely not a one off thing, but I don't think it overly impacts my quality of life. And I do seem to be alright at catching it when it happens. Like I said, the frequency seems to depend on my mood, which lately hasn't been too fantastic. Thankfully though my mood hasn't been impacted by anything too related - different "characters" and whatnot.

    Thanks for your thoughts, and honestly, meditation is not a bad idea.