dolores_clitoris [none/use any]

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  • And now for an interesting question: what if the Democratic Party’s 2024 campaign strategy had worked? What if they had somehow been able to win conservative votes without alienating progressive voters? Well, with the Republican Party electorally defeated, there would no longer be a basis for unity among the two camps of the Democratic Party’s voting constituency. Any policy decision which favors one camp would risk alienating the other camp, leaving the Party paralyzed, even if there were no Republican opposition. The contradictions within the Democratic Party’s constituency are such that winning elections comes at the expense of being able to do anything once in power, and doing anything while in power comes at the expense of winning elections.

    Try explaining this to the consultants who wanted to proudly parade around the Cheney family as part of the campaign












  • dolores_clitoris [none/use any]tomemesedit to racist parade float
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    It is a wholesome "Human Shields" float. Depending on the messaging of that day, every person is embedded in Hamas, or every person is a human shield for Hamas.

    Edit: https://citationsneeded.libsyn.com/episode-197-the-human-shields-canard-as-catch-all-colonial-absolution





  • Not winning respect is part of the story, but the book is focusing more on the love, fulfillment and emotional satisfaction that is surrendered in order to fit into this patriarchal society. I can imagine there are a lot of "respected" people who are emotionally bankrupted by this system. Luckily, ignoring this system doesn't mean that you can't keep or grow how much you are respected; the people who respect you will be the thing that changes.


  • Some quotes from chapter 5:

    • "men come to sex hoping that it will provide them with all of the emotional satisfaction that would come from love. Most men think that sex will provide them with a sense of being alive, connected, that sex will offer closeness, intimacy, pleasure. More often than not sex simply does not deliver the goods. This fact does not lead men to cease obsessing about sex; in fact, it intensifies their lust and their longing."
    • "sexist logic had convinced them and convinced them that they can have connection and intimacy without commitment"
    • "almost everyone believes that we can have sex without love, most folks do not believe that a couple can have love in a relationship if there is no sex"
    • "women are the targets for displaced male rage at the failure of patriarchy to make good on it's promise of fulfillment, especially endless sexual fulfillment"
    • "Men may be too terrified to confront the facts of their lives and tell the truth, that possessing the right to engage in rituals of domination and subordination is not all that patriarchy promised it would be. If patriarchy were a disease, it would be a disease of disordered desire"
    • "socialising women to conform more to patriarchal male sexual norms is one way patriarchy hopes to address male rage"

    This chapter opened with a bang. It led me to think (for the first time in a while) about the one-night-stand and how depressing my one-night-stand experiences have all been. I disagree with Hooks, these experiences did not intensify my lust or longing for (casual) sex. Fortunately for me, I decided the best option was to form a connection before introducing sex into the equation.

    The points raised about male rage stemming from the absolute failure of patriarchal masculinity to provide a meaningful existence for men has been made before in a range of texts; however, this is the first time I have read of the indoctrination of women (through porn and popular culture) into patriarchal male sexual norms being used as a tool to address male rage.


  • Some quotes that stood out in chapter 4:

    -"frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love, for fear that the loved one will abandon them"

    -"these men act out again and again to test their partners love; ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and will end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment"

    -"acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves"

    -"they choose patriarchal manhood over loving connection. First, foregoing self-love, and then the love they could give and receive that would connect them to others"

    This was an interesting chapter, one point that resonated with me was the violence of sons against their mothers. I remember having this realisation at some point in my teenage years, that I was clearly much stronger than my mum, I never acted on this but obviously for may households that is not the case.

    The points about men insulating themselves due to a fear of abandonment was also very close to home. This is a topic that I am still working on peronally. Reaching a point where the thoughts and feelings that I share with my partner match the thoughts and feelings I have in my head has been a huge challenge for me.


  • Sorry for the late reply.

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    Regarding your first paragraph, in a just world, none of those events should be happening to anyone.

    Second paragraph: if everyone is "fully consenting", that would mean every person involved is excited to move forward, which negates the idea of ownership somewhat. You cannot consent on behalf of your spouse. The terminology of "swapping" partners is problematic, but that terminology doesn't undo the full consent you are presenting as a "best case scenario".

    Finally, if the term "swingers" attracts the worst people, what term do these queer folks use to attract the right people? During play, what are the right people doing differently to the swingers?