Wait wait. I had those same things as a kid. I had no idea transition is possible. I was quite cisnormative as a kid too. I thought it was disgusting that amab people would present in any way that wasn't cisnormative. It took me a very long time to get to where I was. My mindset was "Oh, I would have liked to been born a woman but I wasnt so I can't do that and I don't want to". I never cross dressed, and if you asked me to as a kid or even a young adult I wouldn't have ever done it. For a long time trans people didn't make me jealous. They made me embarrassed. Like "Oh my god you're really doing that? How are you doing that don't you know that's wrong?" Kind of thoughts. Ironically I also did respect pronouns all the time but it was scary for me. Even 2 years ago I don't think you could havw gotten me into a dress if you tried.
It wasn't until I recognized in myself that I've always wanted to be a woman in my thoughts and that if I could, I would choose to do a perfect gender transition where I didn't have to deal with any societal issues. Then I worked backwards and realized that I could try all this stuff... and I did. And I loved it. And it was better than I ever could have imagined. But yes, the road was very very confusing for me too.
Yeah and honestly I'm trans and queer as fuck so yeah lol (I do feel invalid a lot because of these experiences as a kid and often have thoughts about whether I'm tricking myself into being trans)
Tbh I also have like… I basically never thought that it would have been nice to have been born a woman (maybe sort of recently, but even then it’s more of in a “it would be more obvious if I was born a woman if I wanted to be one” kind of way). I don’t think I like, really thought about or even comprehended gender categories in their entirety? I just viewed them as these “obvious” categories that Had To Be Defended at all costs
It’s really hard not to feel insecure or like a faker for that. I did IMMEDIATELY start having trans thoughts the moment the idea of gender as an actual tangible thing that someone could like… fuck with was internalized in me, but it’s murky enough to leave me still feeling like an imposter ( )
Maybe it’s because there was never a point where I was actively aware I wanted to be a girl AND felt like it wasn’t possible for me. I started having gender thoughts AFTER being a communist gender/queer theorist for years with a family that understood me on those things
Idk how old you are but like I think you need to be a bit gentle with yourself because at past for me, gender was an "immutable trait" when I was a kid and the idea of being trans was completely absent from my childhood. If you're over 25 likely it was the same for you. You were raised in a society .
That being said, I definitely feel invalid because I never played with barbies, I was never really super close friends with women, I'm not really all that femme.... but like I'm pretty sure I'm trans? I don't think I'm faking it? But sometimes it feels like it.
I guess, I also just wanna say that like every trans person deals with this feeling. I do.
Wait wait. I had those same things as a kid. I had no idea transition is possible. I was quite cisnormative as a kid too. I thought it was disgusting that amab people would present in any way that wasn't cisnormative. It took me a very long time to get to where I was. My mindset was "Oh, I would have liked to been born a woman but I wasnt so I can't do that and I don't want to". I never cross dressed, and if you asked me to as a kid or even a young adult I wouldn't have ever done it. For a long time trans people didn't make me jealous. They made me embarrassed. Like "Oh my god you're really doing that? How are you doing that don't you know that's wrong?" Kind of thoughts. Ironically I also did respect pronouns all the time but it was scary for me. Even 2 years ago I don't think you could havw gotten me into a dress if you tried.
It wasn't until I recognized in myself that I've always wanted to be a woman in my thoughts and that if I could, I would choose to do a perfect gender transition where I didn't have to deal with any societal issues. Then I worked backwards and realized that I could try all this stuff... and I did. And I loved it. And it was better than I ever could have imagined. But yes, the road was very very confusing for me too.
Well fuck I guess I’ve been transed
Yeah and honestly I'm trans and queer as fuck so yeah lol (I do feel invalid a lot because of these experiences as a kid and often have thoughts about whether I'm tricking myself into being trans)
Tbh I also have like… I basically never thought that it would have been nice to have been born a woman (maybe sort of recently, but even then it’s more of in a “it would be more obvious if I was born a woman if I wanted to be one” kind of way). I don’t think I like, really thought about or even comprehended gender categories in their entirety? I just viewed them as these “obvious” categories that Had To Be Defended at all costs
It’s really hard not to feel insecure or like a faker for that. I did IMMEDIATELY start having trans thoughts the moment the idea of gender as an actual tangible thing that someone could like… fuck with was internalized in me, but it’s murky enough to leave me still feeling like an imposter (
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Maybe it’s because there was never a point where I was actively aware I wanted to be a girl AND felt like it wasn’t possible for me. I started having gender thoughts AFTER being a communist gender/queer theorist for years with a family that understood me on those things
Idk how old you are but like I think you need to be a bit gentle with yourself because at past for me, gender was an "immutable trait" when I was a kid and the idea of being trans was completely absent from my childhood. If you're over 25 likely it was the same for you. You were raised in a society
.
That being said, I definitely feel invalid because I never played with barbies, I was never really super close friends with women, I'm not really all that femme.... but like I'm pretty sure I'm trans? I don't think I'm faking it? But sometimes it feels like it.
I guess, I also just wanna say that like every trans person deals with this feeling. I do.
I’m not over 25 but I had a similar experience to you. Like close to a dead ringer actually