Maybe this might work for you? If you feel like you're faking it, list every single other trans person out there who you also think is faking it. Chances are, you're the one and only trans person out there who your doubt in their authenticity. So congrats, you're the one and only fake trans person. You're on hormones wishing for a beautiful transition but actually you're just faking it unlike the REAL trans people. Now go out and scream from the rooftops "I'M THE WORLD'S ONLY FAKE TRANS PERSON"
Now of course the idea of you being the one and only fake trans person is so completely absurd that I can't honestly believe it, and I go back to thinking that yes, I'm trans. idk if that would work for you but it's worth a shot
Thanks! Cognitive techniques like this are really helpful.
Actually, I've had a lot of success with just dropping labels entirely. At the moment, I don't use the terms trans, woman, or man to describe myself.
Instead of thinking, I'm a woman, so please use she/her pronouns. I say, I like she/her pronouns so please use them. Instead of thinking, I'm trans so I should do voice training, I think, I would like a softer voice, so I want to do voice training.
In this way, there's no standard that I can fail to embody. Can't be a faker if there's nothing to fake
based. labels are cringe and i reflexively distrust anyone who likes them. i don't like using labels for myself either even when they completely fit because they're cringe
Maybe this might work for you? If you feel like you're faking it, list every single other trans person out there who you also think is faking it. Chances are, you're the one and only trans person out there who your doubt in their authenticity. So congrats, you're the one and only fake trans person. You're on hormones wishing for a beautiful transition but actually you're just faking it unlike the REAL trans people. Now go out and scream from the rooftops "I'M THE WORLD'S ONLY FAKE TRANS PERSON"
Now of course the idea of you being the one and only fake trans person is so completely absurd that I can't honestly believe it, and I go back to thinking that yes, I'm trans. idk if that would work for you but it's worth a shot
Thanks! Cognitive techniques like this are really helpful.
Actually, I've had a lot of success with just dropping labels entirely. At the moment, I don't use the terms trans, woman, or man to describe myself.
Instead of thinking, I'm a woman, so please use she/her pronouns. I say, I like she/her pronouns so please use them. Instead of thinking, I'm trans so I should do voice training, I think, I would like a softer voice, so I want to do voice training.
In this way, there's no standard that I can fail to embody. Can't be a faker if there's nothing to fake
based. labels are cringe and i reflexively distrust anyone who likes them. i don't like using labels for myself either even when they completely fit because they're cringe
I'm with you, but I think we should be accommodating towards the people who do like them
For many, they couldn't even conceive of what they're going through until there's a word for. It can bring a feeling of safety and grounding.