Thanks! Cognitive techniques like this are really helpful.
Actually, I've had a lot of success with just dropping labels entirely. At the moment, I don't use the terms trans, woman, or man to describe myself.
Instead of thinking, I'm a woman, so please use she/her pronouns. I say, I like she/her pronouns so please use them. Instead of thinking, I'm trans so I should do voice training, I think, I would like a softer voice, so I want to do voice training.
In this way, there's no standard that I can fail to embody. Can't be a faker if there's nothing to fake
based. labels are cringe and i reflexively distrust anyone who likes them. i don't like using labels for myself either even when they completely fit because they're cringe
Thanks! Cognitive techniques like this are really helpful.
Actually, I've had a lot of success with just dropping labels entirely. At the moment, I don't use the terms trans, woman, or man to describe myself.
Instead of thinking, I'm a woman, so please use she/her pronouns. I say, I like she/her pronouns so please use them. Instead of thinking, I'm trans so I should do voice training, I think, I would like a softer voice, so I want to do voice training.
In this way, there's no standard that I can fail to embody. Can't be a faker if there's nothing to fake
based. labels are cringe and i reflexively distrust anyone who likes them. i don't like using labels for myself either even when they completely fit because they're cringe
I'm with you, but I think we should be accommodating towards the people who do like them
For many, they couldn't even conceive of what they're going through until there's a word for. It can bring a feeling of safety and grounding.