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bite me
She is ultimately correct here, though maybe she could have eased into it better. I say this all from a place of compassion, I don't want to argue with you or set you off.
internalized transphobia discussion
Think for a moment, and imagine you said all the things you say about yourself to another trans person. Would it be transphobic? If you said 'you only pass because cis people pity you' to another trans person, you would rightly be called transphobic, maybe even a gaslighter. The point of calling it out is that effectively by having such bad internalized transphobia, it will inevitably seep out into your interactions with other trans people. Its important to tackle this issue head on within yourself, not only for your own mental wellbeing but also for the wellbeing of those around you. AcidSmiley is ultimately on your side here, she clearly wants you to get better and feel better.