Yea, she knows, she's pan herself (actually prefers women generally, haha, funny how we worked out). I think a large part of my struggle is growing up in an incredibly homophobic environment and constantly being called "gay" for having any effeminate traits, despite being a cis-male, and my personal failure to fully confront that internalized homophobia. It's something I'm trying to work on.

Thanks for the perspective!