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    • viva_la_juche [they/them, any]
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      4 years ago

      there's a lot of good advice here. Being really pedagogical in your approach helps a lot. Ask questions that lead to conclusions and try to have him walk through his thoughts, tbh in my experience reactionaries don't have a logical basis for their views and ideas, they're either inherited by osmosis from the status quo or just emotional and they never really think about them. sometimes you can get them to grow up from an idea just by having them actually think about it for once.

      Of course being challenged on them either in person or by seeing something that makes them think about it/feel judged is often what leads them to double down. So who knows what he's experienced and how far those experiences have pushed him down into reaction but it'll be a long and arduous process bringing him out of it.

      I feel for you my brother is also extremely reactionary and once told me

      warning: EXTREME transphobia

      we should "round up all trans people and gas them" bc "it's a mental illness"

      I've made some progress with him but tbh we dont really see each other very often. But I do have a certain group of clients that are young, well to do, cishet white boys that have helped a lot see that white privilege is a thing and get over some other reactionary views by just leading them through stuff.

    • GoldmanSex [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Really good shit right here. I struggle to do this but when I do, it's very effective.

      Gotta fight those urges to make fun of them

    • Kanna [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      If that doesn't work, you can always try again too.

  • crispyhexagon [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    thats not support.
    thats the opposite of support.
    :trans-sad:

    can try educating him about such things, but eventually that kind of toxic shit just needs to be excised if hes incapable of not being an ultra conservative asshole

    edit: if the rest of your fam is less awful, they can maybe help smack sense into him? hopefully theyre less awful :cat-trans:

  • PlantsRstillCool [des/pair]
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    4 years ago

    That's really awful and difficult. However it sounds like he's just regurgitating the kind of things people in the media say. I'm sure I don't have to tell you but anti trans and anti Chinese sentiments are everywhere right now.

    Maybe just trying to introduce him to different media sources; news, tv shows, anything really and his attitudes might change.

    Sorry if this isn't very helpful.

  • TeethOrCoat [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    What anti-chinese shit specifically? What did you tell him in response, if you even responded?

      • TeethOrCoat [none/use name]
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        4 years ago

        I don't know why, but the feeling I'm getting is that sounds way easier to deal with than the anti-CPC types. Perhaps due to the link between fascism and anti-communism that turns anti-CPC racism up a notch.

  • kristina [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    how long has he known? my grandad was like this for a while but like after 5 years of knowing i was trans he came around

  • Quimby [any, any]
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    4 years ago

    I think it's going to depend a lot on what you know about your brother and what kind of person you think he is.

    With that in mind, are you just venting, or do you want advice?