Welcome to the polyamory community on Hexbear! Please stand by as we figure things out.
If you have ideas on things we can do to build engagement in the community, help provide a framework for safety in the community, or any other ideas that you think would contribute positively to the community, please post them here so we can get things going and ensure that this community is a healthy and postive one for everyone. Thank you! 
Some ideas I had, for starters:
- Weekly polyamory stories thread, for folks to come and share stories, ask for advice, etc
- Weekly polyamory questions thread, for folks to come and ask questions about polyamory, mostly to keep that sort of thing out of other places so that folks can just hang out and not feel like we're in a zoo
- Asking people to refer to polyamory in shorthand as "polyam" instead of "poly", mostly because "poly" is ambiguous but "polyam" is not. The Real Life communites I'm in all prefer "polyam" for this reason. Curious if this is just my local community or if others have thought this through as well
- No unicorn hunting. Don't even think about it. Don't even consider it. Get outta here ewie ew
Anyway hopefully we can build this community together!
No unicorn hunting. Don't even think about it. Don't even consider it.
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Unicorn hunters, we will take your liver. This isn't a threat. It's a promise
Asking people to refer to polyamory in shorthand as "polyam" instead of "poly", mostly because "poly" is ambiguous but "polyam" is not.
how is it ambiguous?
Because poly can also refer to Polynesian, but I've also heard from a Polynesian friend that they don't actually care and it's just white people making up things to be offended about on PoC people's behalf, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Yep this basically. I'm a
and it's one of those things that its easier to err on the side of trying to be less ambiguous because I have heard it both ways, that we're being colonialist imperialists pigs for saying "poly" when we mean polyamorous, and also that nobody cares and we're being ridiculous and making
up problems that don't exist by trying to disambiguate. Part of trying to listen to the needs of other communities and trying to do better. I definitely don't have the right answer so it's an interesting topic.For me its an easy change to make and if it reduces harm for someone, anyone, anywhere, then it's a change worth doing. If the Polynesian community at large comes out and says someday like "hey polyam people we'd love to share "poly" with you" then okay I guess that's fine. Until that thing that won't ever happen happens I'm happy to push for polyam.
well for one, its not like "polynesia" is a term that was created by the locals. all of the pasifika folks that i know identify with their specific ethnicity, not the western regional term. i do think polyam is less ambiguous for what its worth.
Agreed. It's easy just to use polyam and completely avoid any harm.
I am so excited for our inevitable struggle session where we point out monogamy is part of white supremacy
shh don't tell Hexbear they need to smash traditional relationship styles
Honestly I had been operating under the vibe that anti cishet aktion was a sufficient space for polyamory posting but I can definetly do it here
Probably lots of safe spaces here for polyam posting, but now we have one more
You know in theory I would love to be polyamorous but I can't manage to get one partner, let alone two or more
In theory it is easier to be poly. Since no partner had to be your one and only life mate you don't have to be as strict about finding a high percentage match. I have had partners that I could not have had a monogamous relationship with. However in a lower intensity setting were healthy and fun situations in their own way
In theory it is easier to be poly. Since no partner had to be your one and only life mate you don't have to be as strict about finding a high percentage match. I have had partners that I could not have had a monogamous relationship with. However it they were healthy and fun situations in their own way
I thinking I could be cool with this. However I am struggling with the inability to get even 1 date problem like the parent poster.
Yeah, I don't know the specifics but I feel like alot of people are complaining about this alot more just recently. There are the usual sources of societal alienation bit I think there was just recently another shift to make things even worse.
I think there was just recently another shift to make things even worse.
you mean something besides covid pandemic?
Strongly in favor of using this as a space for abstract discussion and personal problem-solving/journalposting. I don't think it would be safe or look good for this to act as a personal for e-dating.
Yes, agree completely. Opsec applies here too. Please don't try to date each other, that's not what this space should be used for and doesn't help foster a safe place for each other. Let's share stories, experiences, support, memes, etc.
Pretty sure c/dating didn't last a full 24 hours
It's too late. We are all dating now. It is a giant polycule and I am going to eat some of your leftover pizza.
I'm calling you out, you can't handle the interpersonal complexities of a romantic relationship involving more than 2 people. Go on, prove me wrong
everyone already assumes that all my friends are dating me. might as well make it true.
Lady, I can't handle the interpersonal complexities of a romantic relationship involving more than 1 person.
folks, my girlfriend has a girlfriend and she's so great I love her.
well my boyfriend has a girlfriend and she is very resentful toward me. :c
Normalize hanging out with your girlfriend's girlfriend.
My girlfriend is taking my partner and their partner out to bowling next week. I'm excited for them they always get up to some serious shenanigans when they hang out.
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I wish to engage in amory some day. Any kind of amory, I don't care what kind.
Weirdly relevant comm for me lol.
Been in a poly relationship for a while. Weird shit tbh but hey it's been working out. Poly is social dynamic on fuckin hard mode
not 100% sure about what this comm will look like but i'll join, why not. nice to talk to other people about this stuff sometimes
though i definitely won't be posting much here, because that would quickly get way more into my own relationships than i feel comfortable with sharing
AND WE'RE IN LOVE
