So much of it sucks. Goin on dates is fuckin exhausting. Then things eventually don't work out and you have to repeat the process. How people can be bothered is beyond me.

Went on a date a while ago, had a good time, but in the end she either wasn't into or just bad at showing she was. Either way, took the L there. I don't mind the rejection so much though, cos it gives me hope that theres people out there who I'm at least interested in.

Went on a date with a new person today. Was excited to go on it, we got on well over text. Came to in person and I just didn't click with em so well. I dunno. Maybe I'm being too harsh. I couldn't really tell how she felt about the date to be honest. Not sure if it's worth the effort of finding out.

Weirdly I feel like first dates went better if I'd been a whore for them over Instagram first.

  • ryansmith [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    I'm old, so take what I say with a lot salt.

    I can't imagine anyone except the 4 guys per town who got infinite pussy thrown at them since they were 13 batting any kind of acceptable average on online dating.

    Men look like shit. Dating for men is all personality except the aforementioned 4 guys per town that were actually objectively attractive. Isn't possible to get personality across on the internet to a stranger.

    Like most advice you'll be given now a days, log off. Look for any way to be around women in a non-fuck atmosphere to build trust and bonds before taking the next step.

    I realize this sounds like the DENNIS system, I don't know man, I still think it's true. Sounds corny as fuck but volunteer, do lame hobby shit. Anything flesh to flesh.

    • Nagarjuna [he/him]
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      3 years ago

      This is true, but don't pick up a hobby to get laid. Pick up a hobby to pick up a hobby, and don't worry about dating unless you feel chemistry

    • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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      3 years ago

      I do pretty well tbh, the problem on tinder isnt matches. I'm always sitting on 99+ potential matches. And I get my personality across pretty well too - been doin whorish internet stuff since I was like 14 lol so the text game is probably even stronger than the in person game. In real life girls cold approach me n give me their number/Instagram sometimes even. I just rarely ever like anyone, and when I do I just eventually don't - or they don't like me back.