why do they all fucking hate their partners? why would you willingly date and then fucking marry someone you hate?? am i missing something here???

  • sappho [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    Corollary to your confusion, why is it such a common thing for cishet men to refuse to perform oral sex? To say that they dislike eating out their partner? This has baffled me for my entire lesbian career. You would think I would have a better understanding of straight men given our shared interest but in fact it has made them more of an alien species to me

      • Liberalism [he/him,they/them]
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        4 years ago

        I think you have to be straight to empathize with this notion in any way, because I am also bi and it's basically my favorite thing.

    • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Sex for a lot of straights is presented as a pure dominant/submissive thing(not in the fun way). The gender roles that apply to other aspects of life apply in the bedroom, and thus it is taboo for people to be outside of their gender roles in sex. Giving oral is seen as a submissive, so men don’t do it out of shame of being seen as submissive by their partners or society