Was thinking about this last night. I have friends who I really don’t know anything about on an emotional level because I’ve drilled into my head it’s a conversation meant to be shared in therapy. But there’s also a part of me that sees the value in getting to know people as humans and not just their 9-5 selves. I have fem-presenting friends who seem to be more open to these types of conversations, but I genuinely want to find the line between sharing and over sharing. As a man, It’s pretty depressing to think about tbh, knowing other men for decades but not really knowing anything about them besides their favorite teams or beer.
Is this a thing that’s exclusive to males? Also, if you have any good literature recommendations for this topic please drop below 😅
if they're actually yr friends i don't think they would jump to this conclusion. also people can suspect/wonder if their friends might have a small crush on/attraction to them and not have it be a big deal or something to be pathologized (but again idt they'd jump to this conclusion). the bigger concern IMO is using your fem friends as one-sided emotional crutches - that does come up sometimes but even this i think is overstated as long as you make an effort to learn to be a good listener and give them space to lean on you and be vulnerable with you. as long as they can sense you're trying to be there for them as much as they are for you i really don't think that has to be an issue either.