Gender identity and sexual attraction are separate mechanisms. Embracing masculine expressions as a cishet man is, as far as I can tell, an identity-affirming process. It does not make them want to fuck themselves.
Hard to say just because the words aren’t always super precise. I’m definitely not trying to say you should do anything. I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are different attractions. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic, platonic, etc. So you can judge your own attractiveness with one and not another or a combination of them
I feel you. The common wisdom seems to be that it’s rarely as impossible as it seems to adjust your presentation, but it’s hard to deny that it feels insurmountable sometimes, especially if it’s not something you’ve given a lot of thought prior. I personally have ignored my own appearance as much as possible for a long time.
Yeah we super do not give people the proper language to differentiate between them. Honestly it would have been very helpful to me fighting off my shame around attraction if I’d been able to tell the difference between horny while a girl is present, being sexually attracted to a girl, and being romantically attracted to a girl. Would have made me feel less creepy and probably just general more sociable
Gender identity and sexual attraction are separate mechanisms.
I think it's a little more complicated than that, at least in my experience. I know a lot of other lesbians that have spent a lot of time asking "do I want to be her or do her" about a lot of women they thought were neat too lol.
Gender identity and sexual attraction are separate mechanisms. Embracing masculine expressions as a cishet man is, as far as I can tell, an identity-affirming process. It does not make them want to fuck themselves.
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Hard to say just because the words aren’t always super precise. I’m definitely not trying to say you should do anything. I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are different attractions. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic, platonic, etc. So you can judge your own attractiveness with one and not another or a combination of them
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I feel you. The common wisdom seems to be that it’s rarely as impossible as it seems to adjust your presentation, but it’s hard to deny that it feels insurmountable sometimes, especially if it’s not something you’ve given a lot of thought prior. I personally have ignored my own appearance as much as possible for a long time.
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Yeah we super do not give people the proper language to differentiate between them. Honestly it would have been very helpful to me fighting off my shame around attraction if I’d been able to tell the difference between horny while a girl is present, being sexually attracted to a girl, and being romantically attracted to a girl. Would have made me feel less creepy and probably just general more sociable
I think it's a little more complicated than that, at least in my experience. I know a lot of other lesbians that have spent a lot of time asking "do I want to be her or do her" about a lot of women they thought were neat too lol.