imagine being gay and still trying to conform to society's standards and shitting on superior rad fem gays

  • RedStarLesbian [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    That’s the thing comrade, I get the impulse but nobodies lumped you in anywhere here. Maybe making a separate post or clarifying that you know cumwaffle isn’t meaning to lump you into the Gay Bro archetype would be a bit more conducive to conversation since that is something that probably should be talked about in a more relevant context.

    • cracksmoke2020 [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah this space is relatively positive and affirming. But it's definitely a common trend I've come across among self identified rad queers to hate on gays that are in any way conforming. Although I assume in part that's largely just as a defense mechanism.

      • RedStarLesbian [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        Yeah, I know what you mean. I’m pretty stereotypically hetero looking and I’ve seen some of that bashing myself. There’s even the concept of “gold star lesbians”, which is what my name is referring to, where some gay women will disregard and consider women who have slept with men (or are more immersed in hetero culture) to be “lesser gays”. It’s definitely a thought pattern that exists.