Hey this is for all you cis folks out there. Shits really bleak right now for trans people, and not just because of this whole reddit crap. Republicans are gearing up to pass some really heinous laws that do things like coercively de-transition trans kids, make being a trans teachers illegal, making it so that you cant legally change government docs documents, the list goes on and on. Things are really really really exhausting, and as much as many of us are big fighters, others of us are barely getting by both materially and emotionally. Like I am pretty materially comfortable and 2 years into my transition and even I am pretty worn out by the world, it is like 1000% worse for baby trans and trans people who aren't as lucky as me.
So I am asking you, if you yourselves have the mental and physical means, stand up for us in any way you can. Even if you cant do anything in the real world, if its just calling out shit and bullying transphobes online, every little bit helps make things easier. We need you comrades.
It just seems a vast majority of cis people, even those that consider themselves open minded or accepting, are only willing to accept or correctly gender trans people if they are indistinguishable from cis people
"I can tolerate you if i'm not reminded that you exist"
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if you misgender someone unintentionally then be like "oops sorry I'll do better in the future" and correctly address them next time not double down and get transphobic. Not hard to get
I tell cis boomers, "You ever forget someone's name? It's awkward. You apologize and move on. You've probably misgendered a cis person before by accident. You apologize and move on. Nice and quick. It doesn't have to be a huge deal."
Yeah it's not hard. I am a cis dude and I used to have long hair when I was like 12 or so and occasionally got called a girl by some people. Obviously it's not the same as trans experiences but it's not hard to not be a dick about it.
people misgender me because I have long hair and let my voice go up and down when I talk. nothing outside the most bog[standard gender works for some people.
I pretty much had this conversation with my mother last month. Her tenant-boyfriend's college-aged kid who lives with them came out as transmasc, and my mother keeps deadnaming and misgendering the poor dude. I called her out on it, and she bleated out a complaint along the lines of, "why do I have to be responsible for remembering a new name and pronouns all the time? Why is it such a big deal to [him]? Can't [he] just grow some thicker skin already?" My response was, "I dunno, DAD, why would you hate being misgendered all the time in your own home?" She changed the subject after that, but not before I implored her to read some Leslie goddamned Feinberg.
I might as well be pissing in the wind when trying to get anything to stick in her lead fume-addled neocortex, but yeah. :im-doing-my-part:, I guess. Fighting transphobic gaslighting one boomer family member at a time.
Same thing happens if the trans person isn't one they agree with or something, in which case they basically view pronouns as a privilege which they get to bestow and revoke on trans people
Like fuck offfff with that "you don't deserve my respect"
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i can't stand caitlyn jenner
but she's still a woman
I think it's honestly whether they find them attractive or not. attractive women, and attractive people in general, are treated better than people deemed unattractive.
This is literally true in a really sickening sense. Not even 20 years ago it wasn't an uncommon baseline psychiatric guideline to not provide medical transition related care to a trans woman unless the therapist felt that she would "pass" as cis with medical intervention. This is because it was basic treatment protocol that trans people, especially women, had to promise to go stealth, break off all contact with friends and family and abandon your old self completely, refusing this was grounds for denial of treatment. So yeah basically a trans woman had to pass a 'boner test' to get treatment. In the past 20 years a lot has changed and there are no longer barriers to treatment in most states, and therapy is considered an accompaniment to healthy treatment not a prerequisite. But yeah that's the world fascists want to push us back into at best.