So far I’ve got 0 matches in a week, whereas without “communism will win” I would be getting 1-2 per day.
Idk how I feel about it. I’m getting old, getting lonely, and sometimes just chatting with someone new, even if they end up sucking after a week or two, is enough to give me hope that I’ll find someone. On the flip side I feel like being more upfront would lead to less, but more meaningful interactions. But today, at this moment, I feel a deep loneliness and sadness that I haven’t felt in a very long time.
Fuckin hell. The destruction of the social fabric in capitalist societies fuckin sucks. Just wanna find a cool life-mate to spend my days with.
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Yeah, I know there’s a bazillion other things that are magnitudes more important than this right now, just needed to vent.
Yeah, my wife and I weren't leftists when we met. Now I'm an ML and she is mostly apolitical, but agrees with the basic tenets of giving workers more control and imperialism is bad. Like she isn't a communist, but she isn't not one. She just isn't personally invested in identifying her politics.
So maybe the communism will win bit is coming on a bit strong. I think finding former Bernie supporters should work, because in general they should believe in many of the same things, just without the framework of how to actually make change. So don't give up just yet. There's plenty of people out there who may not identify with communism, but functionally with their beliefs are.
I agree, for the most part. BUT... I have a friend who's an ML and her husband is a right-leaning libertarian (she was a lib when they met). He literally wanted to name their first kid after a character in Atlas Shrugged. It honestly sounds rough, it only works if they don't talk politics and she does no IRL praxis. Sounds like he's gotten a lot more apolitical in recent years, though. Oh and he's a transphobe too.
I think people who are apolitical or even liberal who have sympathetic attitudes towards the poor and oppressed, totally, it can work. But there's quite a few people out there for whom it really won't.
I think both approaches can work. My wife was working class poor and had zero involvement or interest in politics. But she's compassionate, honest, etc etc.
She's slowly learning bits and pieces and moving farther left. For example, convincing her that cops are bad took a long time. It rattled one of the foundational beliefs she'd been raised with and made her question some of her own experiences. But she's a wonderful partner and a wonderful person.
I think you should change it as “communism will win” comes off edgy as hell but absolutely agree that putting leftist stuff on your profile is a good idea because you will genuinely find a better connection with a fellow leftist than some brunch time lib even if it means you won’t get as many matches, I’m pretty sure there was a thread on here a little while ago about things to put on your profile to help find fellow commies I just don’t have time to find it rn but that might help you too
maybe just make it a bit more comical/romantic sounding?
communism will win when we have simultaneous orgasms
or
let's form a union, but more kinky
idk just some ideas to riff on
if i said something like this to my bf he'd ask if i damaged my brain
one sec asking him
'are you hurt' is what he said
Bruh if you getting 1-2 per day you hot af. Remove that cringe communist shit and have fun.
I’m really not hot af, just average I’d say. But I’m getting older, the fun ain’t as fun anymore. Looking for some real shit
Take it out. We were all liberals once. There is a better filter to tell which liberals could be saved. It'd have to be more fun than this.
Lots of good truth in here y’all, gonna be removing it and trying to just be happy
isn't hinge for yuppies? all these apps suck but if you have to use one, okc is pretty well populated with weirdos
gotta say im a woman and i put something like that in my profile (i think it was something like liberals, libertarians, and conservatives fuck off) and i probably will marry the guy i found. he was an anarchist to start with but is leaning marxist now. also had a few relationships with socialists before finding my bf off of that little tidbit, and they were pretty fun relationships no hard feelings or anything just didnt work out
just sayin commie girls exist. maybe dont say communism will win though, maybe just say 'im a socialist interested in other socialists' so if someone is searching by keywords theyll find you
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Edit: also, stealing that and adding it to my profile. If I’m going to be an old, loser, lonely ML I might as well lean into it.
I'd do that, but I'm afraid some chud will recognize me IRL as a leftist somehow and attack me, or it'll put me on yet another government list for being a leftist
dw i had a chud say he was gonna hunt me down and kill me for being trans and nothing came of it (after he superliked me of course)
what a loser cant even follow through
yeah he was all like 'i know this town like the back of my hand ill find youuuuu!' and apparently the app had an autoreport to the police function for that and i didnt even have to deal with it at all. customer service lady contacted me and gave me free premium for life so that was kinda neat
thanks random transphobe guy!
The whole point of your profile is to filter out people you won't jive with.
I'm becoming very afraid of never finding anyone myself, even though I'm only early 30's... But it sounds like it only gets harder the older you get.
tbh I don't even care about finding "The One" or whatever. just FWB or casual sex or w/e would be fine, but I can never even get one date from these stupid apps
I'm going to say it's worth not compromising on a partner if a leftist is who you're looking for. One of the most interesting people I talked to on a dating app mentioned being a tankie in her bio haha. Things didn't really move along from there, but that sure caught my attention quickly.
I haven't had any matches in about 5 years. I tried a dating service a while ago, but also didn't find anyone interested. At this point I'm just going to try and vibe. I think I'm happier alone, but I might just be coping.
I had matches before then (maybe 1 per month), but never took off anywhere so I did what you did. I got frustrated and just had fun with it, put leftist stuff and pictures of my cats. Never got any matches after that, but I had fun putting the profiles together.
