I've only been on this website for a short time so I know this looks sus im not trying to start arguments or something im just uncomfortable with something ive been seeing

ive been looking around and seeing things in posts and i would like to say that many of them make me very uncomfortable it is very common to see posts/topics idk that seem to be kind of glorifying revenge and hurting people disproportionately hatred for bourgoisie is justified but the people talking about and detailing torture make me really uncomfortable (saying things like detailing cruel and unusual punishments) because i have a hard time not involuntarily putting myself into the shoes of others even when they have nothing in common with me

ive been trying to tolerate it because i assumed this was part of what "dirtbag left" meant, being unapologetic and willing to advocate for things that are unappealing and not "civil" so become confused when people brought up the dumb will smith incident because it was just a slap, barely anything but lots of people seem to disapprove of it for being childish and immature i understand this viewpoint but i dont get why these two exist simultaneously i was starting to see the appeal of simply just advocating for "fuck around and find out" violence against the bourgoisie and nazis and obvious bigots but when the same principle is applied to others who are making ableist jokes it's bad

it comes across as people only caring and advocating for violence against people that affect them personally, and not people who affect others negatively i dont care about will smith (rich jerk) but i don't understand how that doesn't apply to me. why are people advocating for violence in ways that are arguably justifiable but make people uncomfortable just talking about them, but if i were to hit someone for making fun of me stimming or something that would be bad?

was all of the wall/torture/grenade pit stuff sarcastic or is the stance that its only ok to commit violence against people that affect the entire proletariat instead of just a part? (i know will smith probably isn't part of the proletariat i just don't understand how him being in the wrong doesn't also translate to proletariat members hitting people for making fun of them and family members and their own conditions)

i also don't know how to feel because a lot of the time it's very hard to control things that are considered violent actions i understand that as a general principle i should avoid them but in a situation like with the will smith thing (lots of people, someone making fun of someone i care about , probably lots of stress because award ceremony) i could see some kind of meltdown happening and me flipping out or doing something a lot worse, i know that's bad, and i avoid doing things like that but also lots of people have conditions that make that more likely so i have a hard time not sympthaziing. i also don't understand why making fun of someone to the point of self-harm or emotional harm is ok but hitting them isnt,, and in a world where nobody seems to care enough to actually help deescalate (and usually takes the side of harassers if they're "funny" enough) what else your even supposed to do? nobody taught me this and i wish they did

  • catposter [comrade/them]
    hexagon
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    3 years ago

    maybe it doesn't matter but it comes across weird to say that one should "never use violence" (especially when IMO making fun of someone's autoimmune disorder is totally a justifiable reason to get pissed and hit someone, though i think it shouldn't be done on someone's behalf unless they ask you or something that was toxic masculinity) and then advocate systemic violence

    its either ignorant of a large portion of human interaction, that being that people fight (and we can't just ignore this we need to fix the underlying causes not try to repress fighting, people are going to do it anyway) or its believing that individuals shouldn't care about personal insults at all (when people with ADHD and stuff typically can't control that so that doesn't make sense)

    • DeathToBritain [she/her, they/them]
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      3 years ago

      see, you're gettin in the weeds of it. this was a non event that play on peoples experiences as all social media becomes this bubbling cauldron of takes, counter takes, screams of lived experiences. a guy hit another guy he has known, personally, for years, and then he said sorry. don't take it as some huge point about ADHD, toxic masculinity on a societal level, and the legitimisation of violence for some things and not others. I can promise you,all you're going to find in this situation is irritation, anxiety, and people disagreeing with you who also think they're doing the right thing for social justice by having the take they do.

      the best advice I can give is walk away from any talks about it, find something that destresses you, and try to have a nice day where you relax and don't let the anxiety get to you. and if you do want to engage in conversations about these things, don't do it via the lense of the hot topic of the week where people see everything through this warped paradigm of mass hot takes on a topic, talk about it in a space and time where people want to look at these things for what they are, not what tweet did they see first that framed the whole debate for them and you're bad because you disagree.

        • DeathToBritain [she/her, they/them]
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          3 years ago

          I can clearly see you're quite anxious about this, and there's nothing wrong with that. the things you feel are legitimate worries, it's just not productive to focus on them in such a charged situation where you will not get a fair discussion about them.

    • fratsarerats [none/use name]
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      3 years ago

      What I notice is that people will unironically support someone like Will Smith, but when pressed on how escalating violence is a bad thing, they'll retreat to "oh it doesn't matter why do you care anyways?" Or what's worse, they'll double down and say how they would "throw down" or whatever in real life, which I highly doubt. There's no way they'd be that stupid to risk going to jail just cuz someone insulted their momma or whatever. Or risk getting decked by someone much bigger or stronger than them.

      • catposter [comrade/them]
        hexagon
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        3 years ago

        i would "throw down" in real life in that i would get angry and hit someone without thinking about consequences because htey just insulted someone who's dear to me based on a disability they have

        obviously it's bad for me but saying it's morally wrong and simultaneously defending cruel and unusual punishment in general seems hypocrticial

        • Pseudoplatanus22 [he/him]
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          3 years ago

          Re. cruel and unusual punishments:

          You're correct. But these are all hypothetical. If I heard that Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos tripped and got their genitals caught in a laundry press, I would laugh hysterically. I wouldn't have it in me to torture someone in that manner, however, and frankly I'd be suspicious of anyone that did; at least towards common-or-garden chuds and assholes. They are people too, after all, albeit in need of re-education.

          Often these calls to violence are directed at reactionaries, if not dyed-in-the-wool Nazis. Look at the violence they advocate on a daily basis, like what Greg Abbot is trying to do to trans people. For them this is a fight for survival, so I'm not going to quibble if they wish death upon him.