idk it's good to play with your kids, but also it's important to step back a bit and let them figure stuff out on their own, as long as they know how to come back to you if they need something they can't do for themselves
I can’t say that my approach is right for everyone. I know that it resonates for me in part because of how I was raised. I have no memories of my parents playing with me. I can remember reading together and their swimming with me in the ocean, but they weren’t involved in the fashion shows I filmed with my sisters, and they didn’t help me make my magazine, Kid Stuff, either. Not once did they dine at my fictional restaurant. [...]
When my kids and I stop doing our own things and come together, it’s because we want to. The activities we do together offer all of us pleasure; we opt in and because of this, we actually have fun. I may not play, but I’m goofy and affectionate, and I love to talk about feelings. I love to teach too: how to count, how to read, how to make guacamole.
Yeah that's true to my childhood at least. I kind of assumed that's how most millennials grew up. Adults had their adult stuff that they had to do and as long as I didn't get into a fight with my brother I pretty much expected my parents to stay out of my stuff. It's not like there wasn't intimacy or joy, they just didn't play.
I mean, I can see this point of view, but some of my best memories as a kid are playing board games with my mom. She left me alone a lot but she also would shoot BB guns with me, go bike riding, stuff like that. There's definitely a place for "playing" with kids but I think that maybe the article title implies and what the author is talking about are two different things.
idk it's good to play with your kids, but also it's important to step back a bit and let them figure stuff out on their own, as long as they know how to come back to you if they need something they can't do for themselves
Nah you gotta let them spend 8 hrs getting hungrier while not figuring out how a can opener works
oh yea that guy was nutso lol
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Google bean dad, it was a series of tweets IIRC.
Bean dad brings me back. Was that on the old chapo sub?
that was here
TIme is an illusion.
Yeah I don't think anyone here is advocating for just monopolizing your own kids life but like, this article sure isn't talking about that
idk i'm reading it and
Yeah that's true to my childhood at least. I kind of assumed that's how most millennials grew up. Adults had their adult stuff that they had to do and as long as I didn't get into a fight with my brother I pretty much expected my parents to stay out of my stuff. It's not like there wasn't intimacy or joy, they just didn't play.
yeah the parent doesn't have to act like one of the children to spend quality time with them and frankly I don't think children want them to either
I mean, I can see this point of view, but some of my best memories as a kid are playing board games with my mom. She left me alone a lot but she also would shoot BB guns with me, go bike riding, stuff like that. There's definitely a place for "playing" with kids but I think that maybe the article title implies and what the author is talking about are two different things.