Not trying to create a struggle sesh, just want to facilitate a discussion on the matter: Is sexual content of any kind okay, or not okay, here?

I'm using an alt to avoid potential retaliation, but have been a user for over a year, and it's just that the stance on sexual content/jokes seems to fluctuate alot. One week some sexual discussion/jokes are okay, the other there's seemingly zero tolerance.

I get not wanting full-on porn posts or unironic :awooga:-ing or stuff like that, but I feel like there's some nuance before it gets to those extreme points.

Sex is cool, good, funny and a huge part of life for most people imo, and I think as long as it's not porn or sexist ogling, there should be some wiggle room before something gets removed.

  • justjoshint [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    can't speak for the site as a whole but i don't want to see horny posting at all. i don't think its particularly pervasive here.

    edit: i feel like making a more nuanced take: I don't like hearing sexual stuff from people, except my close friends sometimes because i'm comfortable with them. It's the sort of thing that in friendships you have to set boundaries about and it's not really realistic to respect every individuals boundaries on a large enough social media group. But i also don't feel like it's completely fair to ban it completely, because it seems to me that being open about sexual feelings has served as an important part of community building for LGBT people on the internet (in i think a less toxic way than it does for heterosexual people; i'm not sure if theres a significant LGBT equivalent to like misogynistic bro culture) and its somewhat a problem to suppress that form of self-expression that has only become (relatively) physically safe to do recently. anyways i'm glad i'm not a moderator here cause i don't want to make that call.

    I think it's a reasonable discussion to have for sure.

    • EmmaGoldman [she/her, comrade/them]M
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      3 years ago

      i’m not sure if theres a significant LGBT equivalent to like misogynistic bro culture

      Yep. It's the exact same type of dudes, only they're gay. I wouldn't say it's super significant, but it is a thing that you will see if you're hanging out in queer spaces enough.

      • justjoshint [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        so like, "women are objects only there for sex", but they think that about other men instead? idgi

        • D61 [any]
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          3 years ago

          Being so horny on main that you not only post about your hornyness but also use language that completely objectifies the target of your hornyness.