I think we're sex positive in that nobody would look down on you for being in a polycule or something like that - but the volcel thing exists for a very good reason, which is that being horny is heavily correlated with being creepy and this site wants to be a safe space from that. Discussions of sex work have also had a tendency to turn into struggle sessions because we have pretty diverse and strongly held beliefs on that topic.

:hentai-free:

Being able to openly talk about sex with others on a platform that has no way to check whether or not you're a minor can lead to problems

Like yeah, talking to minors about sex isn't inherently bad or creepy, but uhhhh it's a slippery slope to say the least, and I can understand why the site chooses to be overly cautious

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can't speak for the site as a whole but i don't want to see horny posting at all. i don't think its particularly pervasive here.

edit: i feel like making a more nuanced take: I don't like hearing sexual stuff from people, except my close friends sometimes because i'm comfortable with them. It's the sort of thing that in friendships you have to set boundaries about and it's not really realistic to respect every individuals boundaries on a large enough social media group. But i also don't feel like it's completely fair to ban it completely, because it seems to me that being open about sexual feelings has served as an important part of community building for LGBT people on the internet (in i think a less toxic way than it does for heterosexual people; i'm not sure if theres a significant LGBT equivalent to like misogynistic bro culture) and its somewhat a problem to suppress that form of self-expression that has only become (relatively) physically safe to do recently. anyways i'm glad i'm not a moderator here cause i don't want to make that call.

I think it's a reasonable discussion to have for sure.

we are sex-atheist; it does not exist

this site is hentai free

also i do thirst post about my bf semi-regularly and have yet to be apprehended by the volcel vanguard

On top of my agreement with ssjmarx's comment, I'd also like to add that we've had users run with any sexual content and be inappropriate. Just recently it came out a user was harassing others in DMs, so if avoiding sexual content helps avoid that then I think it's a good thing

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I just want to add that as an ace person I appreciate any space that makes attempts to be inclusive, there are so many sexual spaces on the internet that I have to curate masto follows and use lemmy/hexbear to feel included and respected.

There are legions of leftist horny-discords out there so I thanks to the :volcel-police: for what they do here, and for what it's worth I think the megathread is the best place to discuss any border-line hornyposting, relationship, kink-posts behind a CW and Spoiler.

Its fun to skirt the rules sometimes - the 'panting' emote exists after all - and sex is a big part of being gay so there necessarily has to be some space for it here. But the volcel joke exists for good reasons; for me, even though I am a disgusting pervert with a collection of thousands of odd sexual lovers, I enjoy it because every time I see someone say anything that might suggest they are a cis heterosexual I go bright pink and start puffing and groaning and clasping my temples. If I find out a poster I like is straight I mentally change their sex just so I can keep reading their posts.

This site's userbase, despite the impression created by the tireless and honorable spamming efforts of its prominent gender-terrorists, is still dominated significantly by men, by straight people, and by cis people. Joking aside, that's fine (and to be expected as a reddit clone full of redditors), some of them are I'm sure good people. But that means without intervention or exclusion the sexual attitudes common among that ilk would become the most prominent ones found on the website. And I doubt even the straight cis men here would want that; to be here now as anyone means, I think, that you are most comfortable feeling like you are in a place dominated by transmen (due to the shitposts), transwomen (due to the ranting effortposts), and bisexuals (due to the mascot). To exclude discussion of sex is to let that illusion live, hopefully to later become reality (through making people become gay and trans by reading posts)

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Sex is cool, good, funny and a huge part of life

:volcel-judge: TAKE EM IN! :volcel-judge:

I both love fucking and rock at it, but I try to stay humble so I don't talk about it here. I assume everyone else is doing the same

Sex is comedy is banned.

Sex is boring, indeed, foisted upon us at all angles and at all times. Rebecca Loos ‘pleasuring’ a pig on Channel 5; atrociously unfunny sitcoms like Carrie and Barry and that unfeasibly shit Friday night C4 series whose name escapes me, whose reliance upon explicit sexual reference show that sex in such comedies is now as drearily inevitable as the litany of cosy social embarrasments in such staid seventies shows as Terry and June used to be. Where once the comedy, such as it was, turned upon burning the roast beef when the boss was due for a dinner party, now it depends upon gratuitous smut which is offered up with that sremoveding adolescent duplicity typical of sexualists: i.e. sex is both ordinary, everyday, nothing special yet at the same time charged with a frission of naughty transgression.

-Mark Fisher