One of them is offering reciepts to people, but is this a trap/inappropriate to ask for if I just know them from the same spaces and aren't really friends with them?
I am bad at navigating these things, even outside the whole detecting DARVO thing
One of them is offering reciepts to people, but is this a trap/inappropriate to ask for if I just know them from the same spaces and aren't really friends with them?
I am bad at navigating these things, even outside the whole detecting DARVO thing
Three most common options.
But seriously if you aren't really friends with these people you should do your best to ignore it and stay out of it. There's no way to really know the truth and in the case of accusations done over social media there are a ton of social reasons for either party to lie. I've found that plenty of people love attention, power and the ability to punish people they don't like. If you take part in a court of public opinion with relative strangers you will find yourself participating in mob justice.
If this is a toxic community that demands you participate, then you can just wait for a majority of them to make a decision on who they believe and then just go along with the group
Sometimes they both talk about it at social events and Im not sure how I'm supposed to react to that in conversation
They're both going out of their way to tell specifically you about it? If so engage in a curious manner but try not to pry. If not ask people at these events that you're closer with what they think.
just read the shit and think about it
also mob justice is not necessarily a bad thing