Touch some grass dude, humans flirting with each other in public has been happening literally forever. “Oh let’s give control one of the most basic core human activities over entirely to a handful of dating app corporations” my man, go outside

  • SuperNovaCouchGuy [any]
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    2 years ago

    istg if this baitslinging normie dunce got flirted with irl by someone he finds attractive then all of this virtue signalling is going out the window

    in reality, for these normies, public flirting is fine if the one who commences it is conventionally attractive/NT but it isnt fine when the one who commences is less conventionally attractive/NT than the person they are talking to

    • HodgePodge [love/loves]
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      2 years ago

      congratulations, "women who don't want to be sexually harassed are ableist" is literally the worst take I've seen in months

      • SuperNovaCouchGuy [any]
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        2 years ago

        Ctrl+F what I wrote, "women" and "harassment" never appear. Im just stating the obvious fact that we dont live in a utopia where there is such a thing as "true" love and romance born out of "inner beauty" when it comes to modern intimacy. If a person is "ugly"/deformed or ND, their flirting is more likely to be perceived in a negative light by whoever they commence it with/receive it from in socially acceptable settings for flirting, especially among normie social circles. This applies for anyone of any gender. In fact, if youre NT and conventionally attractive, then you can toe the line of acceptability to a much greater extent. Caveat being that im speaking from my observations and dont have any studies to back this up, but this is something that doenst get brought up often enough. Weve been conditioned to be shallow fucks who only care about shit thats skin deep in the arena of romance.

        • BolsheWitch [she/her, they/them]
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          If a person is “ugly”/deformed or ND, their flirting is more likely to be perceived in a negative light by whoever they commence it with/receive it from in socially acceptable settings for flirting, especially among normie social circles.

          “Oh you wouldn’t care if they were hot” I’m telling you for a fact: even if a really attractive man started flirting with me in public I’d be just as uncomfortable and anxious.

          This applies for anyone of any gender.

          Not an equal playing field. Men hitting on people (particularly non-men) has a completely different dynamic than other with other genders. You cannot erase the differential there.

          Caveat being that im speaking from my observations and dont have any studies to back this up, but this is something that doenst get brought up often enough.

          This gets brought up constantly by MRAs trying to justify misogyny.

          Weve been conditioned to be shallow fucks who only care about shit thats skin deep in the arena of romance.

          Body positivity is vitally important and needs to be part of any intersectional liberation effort. "Skin deep" is a good way to put it because most western beauty norms come out of colonialism, patriarchy, and white supremacy. That is a completely different topic than what is being discussed here though.

    • wire [it/its]
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      2 years ago

      Love how reactionary this sounds lol

      • SuperNovaCouchGuy [any]
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        2 years ago

        Probably because of the cynicism, but i dont ascribe this to immutable aspects of the "human condition"

        • HodgePodge [love/loves]
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          2 years ago

          Probably because of the cynicism, but i dont ascribe this to immutable aspects of the “human condition

          :jesse-wtf:

    • DinosaurThussy [they/them]
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      2 years ago

      Yeah, I think flirting in general is less comfortable when you’re not attracted to the person. And a lot of people’s attractions are ableist or shallow, so that just kinda follows

    • BolsheWitch [she/her, they/them]
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      2 years ago

      istg if this baitslinging normie dunce got flirted with irl by someone he finds attractive then all of this virtue signalling is going out the window

      in reality, for these normies, public flirting is fine if the one who commences it is conventionally attractive/NT but it isnt fine when the one who commences is less conventionally attractive/NT than the person they are talking to

      What no intersectionality does to a mother fucker. Hitting on people in public comes with a whole host of issues. Pointing that out doesn't meant that we're advocating for corporate control over the dating scene.

      It's the classic white cishet leftist guy calling shit "ahistorical" or "immaterial" when it criticizes something he likes. The criticisms in this thread are pretending to be leftist. You can simultaneously not like apps like Tindr or the corporations behind them while also talking about how hitting on strangers is generally not great

      This comment just reeks of reactionary / 4chan brain. Like the way it's written is exactly how reddit or the farms or 4chan talk about social justice movements.

      Also too the idea that this is a virtue signaled take and can't be an earnestly held belief. The immediate assumption that this is a lie first and foremost as opposed to something someone could genuinely act on in public.

      "Oh you wouldn't care if they were hot" I'm telling you for a fact: even if a really attractive man started flirting with me in public I'd be just as uncomfortable and anxious.

      But that's a perspective that can't be considered because the immediate assumption is that this is "a soyboy beta cuck" trying to attract the woke women by virtue signaling. Huge chan shit.