Basically, NY Magazine just put out an article essentially defending a 17-year old boy that leaked his girlfriend's nudes and blames the victim and her friends for making a list of boys to avoid at their high school.
Link to tweet: https://mobile.twitter.com/NYMag/status/1539219557285502977
Please go dunk on this.
Given how the first like 2 paragraphs of that article were about how innocent & cute Diego is, I have to believe that he is a piece of shit lol.
more concerned with making sure people know they have a manuscript they'd like to get published than doing journalism
Yeah that is the classic play isn't it "promising young man"
This is the journalism equivalent of the teacher who wishes they were still in high school and hangs out with the popular kids in class.
"ya know if I were their age..." :awooga:
A guy showed me a nude of my ex gf when at the time we were not yet in a relationship but we were obviously interested in one another, the first thing I did was call the dude out, told her about it and ostracized him from our friend group. Fuck people that do that shit they deserve to be shunned and bullied.
Remember when Felix said it was unbelievable that a bunch of adults would care about the gossip blog of a high school girl while reviewing gossip girl? Look who has egg on their face now! I would not be feeling quite so confident if I was that guy, ya know what I mean?
See my above comment about teachers who wish they were in high school again. Being a teenager sucks and I think some adults are all too happy to relive that shit through the lens of adulthood. See the popularity of every teen drama on television ever.
Another user mentioned it. I would have been sleeping at the time and it was apparently removed for being too sympathetic to the boy. Seems like a pretty level headed conversation here, so far.
Well repost it here why don’t ya! I wanna read it and dunk on some chuds
God damn this shit drives me up the wall. Being shunned or mocked, justified or not, is not an existential crisis. It's a tool to let someone know they need to change their behavior. Anyone who complains about being "cancelled" because other people choose not to talk to them needs to be fired into the sun.
Why is evewyone being so mean to me.
i'm juwst a smow wittwe bean, who's onwy cwime was shawing nuwde photos of my giwwfwiend withouwt hew consent.
If this is news then wait till they hear about some of the shit that appeared on MY high school bathroom wall
i believe in compassion and forgiveness and all of that, i believe that teenagers are still children, and shouldn't be held eternally responsible for the fucked up shit they do while their brains are still developing.
but like, oh no, his friends of the same age think he's a dickhead because he acted like a dickhead. tough shit. in 2 years he'll have graduated and it literally won't matter to anyone.
I tend to agree. And I think my problem ultimately comes down to why publish this in the first place? What was the author trying to accomplish? Between the creepy prose and the victim blaming it just felt like leaving the situation alone would have been the best thing to do.
And I'm sure similar situations have been occurring all over the US since smart phones have become common place. Maybe even before that.
it so clearly would be, except these kinds of high school dramas are symbolic for the media class. they see a child being rightly rejected by his peers for anti-social, predatory behavior and think "wait, these kids are going to be our coworkers in 5 to 10 years, and then what will they do to us?"
I personally think all teenage boys should be put Into cryogenic sleep and have the entirety of feminist theory injected into their brains before they're allowed to be awake
Also, I suspect that bullying and social ostricization are decreasing in aggregate, kids today are pretty clearly nicer than they were a few decades ago.
Yeah, all of that sounds incredibly tame compared to what being a teenager was like in the 90s, and i'm saying that as somebody who went to a private school in an ok neighborhood. it was just a much rougher time back then, kids were so much more violent in those days, bigottry was so normal, there was zero awareness for bullying. at least on that front, kids today have it much better than 20, 30 years ago.
Wow thats good to hear. I hope its easier for kids now. As a fellow 90s teen :fidel-salute:
MFs always clutch their pearls when femmes organise support to protect themselves from predators
gonna copy my response to the last post about this (which was super sympathetic to the sex post and has been removed)
i don’t know what happened there. i don’t fully buy this version of events, given the clear bias on display in the article, and even if it’s true there’s nothing there that’s worse than things that happened when i was in high school. things like this have been happening for a long time.
in this article we know for sure that: a) the guy did what he was accused of, and b) what he was accused of was a legitimately awful thing. i don’t know if diego deserved everything that happened here, and it seems like some of the other people mentioned definitely didn’t deserve what they got, but worse has been going on for a long time. and i haven’t seen articles like this printed about every instance of a 16 year old needing to move out of the state because they had a bad break up and their ex posted revenge porn
I went back and read the deleted post and it's comments. I see what you mean. In all honesty, I didn't read the article at all, just the excerpts on Twitter.
This does seem a little like bait and I have no idea who thought publishing this was a good idea. I'm just upset because this hits close to home with something that happened to my partner recently. I'm just thankful that the people we know dumped the sex pest in question.
To paraphrase another comment, in the absence of justice, there will be mob rule.
yeah. i read the article, and it does mention some people who it sounds like got fucked over. but that's hardly cancel culture. and most of it is dedicated to diego, who it sounds like got what he deserved.
Fwiw I found your post generally pretty fair from my own (limited) viewpoint, at least in the absence of more details
i feel pretty confident that i'm right, but i don't know what happened there. i don't know any of these people, and so i'm trying to not make any absolute statements.
I was pretty ambivalent about him before. I always thought of it as "epic we live in a society pop art" but yeah with this, absolutely fuck him.
