i'll start. i saw a ask reddit post saying something along the lines of "men of reddit whats something women can't understand" and the comments were just. oh my god. the main one that made me want to puke was "when dudes walk by each other and nod" and the whole fucking thread was just fedoras with arms soypogging like it was some secret language or something. "when you nod upwards, it means respect!!!!!1!!11 when you nod downwards its aggression!!!1!11!!!!!" as if women dont do the same shit.

do you guys have something similar to share?

  • Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]
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    10 months ago

    I'm gonna be honest, as an autistic transfem the "bro nod" shit really fucks with me because I'm like "am I demonstrating my ｍａｌｅ　ｓｏｃｉａｌｉｚａｔｉｏｎ right now or is this normal"

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      I've decided to just own it, I don't even care anymore. I nod at the dudes and wave to the gals.

      I did not know before today that directional nods have different meanings; I have been acting hyperaggressive on the sly towards dudes for years. Their masculinity in shambles.

      • rootsbreadandmakka [he/him]
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        10 months ago

        nah reddit just has no idea what they're talking about. A downward nod is like respect and acknowledgement of the other person, usually towards a stranger. Upward nod is friendlier, usually towards a friend. Downward nod is also friendly, it's just a bit more aloof, like there's more separation between the two people. An upward nod conveys a sense of closeness.

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          10 months ago

          MANY CONFLICTING DEFINITIONS OF THE DUDE NOD

          I have now concluded from the Brotherhood of Nod that dudes, in fact, do not rock. Not if this is the kind of bs they engage in :)

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      • Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]
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        10 months ago

        Basically it's the idea that men greet people (particularly other men) with a slight nod. This is often expanded into an idea of a sort of "nod language" particular to men, where an upwards vs downwards vs left vs right nod have different meanings.

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