I can't be the only one who doesn't get dating apps and stuff right? Like it seems to me that people are trying so hard to force a connection but also not be too interested. I had Tinder for all of two days before I deleted it because it just depressed me
Dating apps are absolutely awful in their current form...but the flipside to it is that they offer the chance to eliminate a lot of confusion from courtship.
The question you kinda need to ask yourself is: aside from dating apps where is an appropriate place to ask someone out romantically?
Work? Absolute non starter.
Out in public? Every woman I know in my personal life hates being asked out in public, even if they're single. A lot of people consider this sexual harassment.
At parties/social events? I guess....depending on the size/group you hang with???
For all it's problems it is refreshing that in a dating app, if you're chatting with another human, you know at least two things:
They are interested in finding someone to be more than a platonic friend.
if I don't meet a person in person then I'll just die alone. I don't need to experience algorithmically optimized rejection. Ironically I have too much self esteem for that. M'ladies :attlee-fedora:
I read an article in the university newspaper recently and it seems like a significant number of young people are deciding to ditch dating apps for those reasons. So it's not just you or people on this website.
OkCupid wasn't that bad prior to, like, 2008-2009, when they started getting really scummy with the matching algorithm. Met some interesting people on there, including my spouse.
The "main" personality test was at least slightly better than astrology, because it would classify people based on how likely they were to behave like a self-centered ass as one if its dimensions.
But yeah, it went to shit when they had to turn an actual profit.
Are they? Good. I was beginning to fear they had become more commonplace with young people. Dating apps and sites went from something you were ashamed to admit to because it made you a loser to nearly everyone having tried it at least once.
I can't be the only one who doesn't get dating apps and stuff right? Like it seems to me that people are trying so hard to force a connection but also not be too interested. I had Tinder for all of two days before I deleted it because it just depressed me
Dating apps are absolutely awful in their current form...but the flipside to it is that they offer the chance to eliminate a lot of confusion from courtship.
The question you kinda need to ask yourself is: aside from dating apps where is an appropriate place to ask someone out romantically?
Work? Absolute non starter.
Out in public? Every woman I know in my personal life hates being asked out in public, even if they're single. A lot of people consider this sexual harassment.
At parties/social events? I guess....depending on the size/group you hang with???
For all it's problems it is refreshing that in a dating app, if you're chatting with another human, you know at least two things:
They are interested in finding someone to be more than a platonic friend.
They find you attractive on a first glance.
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if I don't meet a person in person then I'll just die alone. I don't need to experience algorithmically optimized rejection. Ironically I have too much self esteem for that. M'ladies :attlee-fedora:
Yeah I don't use those things anymore, tried it once and totally not for me.
I think I commented about it somewhere in this thread
I read an article in the university newspaper recently and it seems like a significant number of young people are deciding to ditch dating apps for those reasons. So it's not just you or people on this website.
OkCupid wasn't that bad prior to, like, 2008-2009, when they started getting really scummy with the matching algorithm. Met some interesting people on there, including my spouse.
The "main" personality test was at least slightly better than astrology, because it would classify people based on how likely they were to behave like a self-centered ass as one if its dimensions.
But yeah, it went to shit when they had to turn an actual profit.
Are they? Good. I was beginning to fear they had become more commonplace with young people. Dating apps and sites went from something you were ashamed to admit to because it made you a loser to nearly everyone having tried it at least once.
I get it but it's also cringe and I hate it
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I was a shaky suicidal mess at 7, what does this mean?