I've had an extremely toxic mentality when it comes to online PvP based games. Between my younger years of Quake, TF2, CS, it just unearths this hideous portion of me. I have quit all PC gaming for the past 2 years.

I was raised in an environment where cynicism was met with applause, in nearly any situation. Everyone in my house would regularly pontificate at their surroundings (people, crossing guards) and it was met with jeers instead of any pause, regardless how degrading. It was just the familial brand of humor. So that's whom I emulated - vitriol at people playing some game in a manner I've deemed unfair or mindless. I keep trying to fight this shit away and be different, and I've cut off every game except for one last goddamn mobile game.

I played it with local town friends, some I hadn't been connected to since grade school. We had a ball, until everyone pressured me to ditch playing casually and try the new PvP portion.

I went down a trench where I went from punching my knee in frustration, to spiking my phone, to wishing I could slam myself hard enough in the head to be unconscious, all over pixels on a fucking screen. I'd recently finally got through state government health services to talk to a therapist, eventually about me spending as much as an hour a day that I have off from work for self-abasement through this game. How much I was empowering my already present will to not live by starting to hurt myself, regardless how temporary, mentally or physically, for these bursts of frustration.

So I quit every game in totality this morning, aside from Animal Crossing with family/friends that still play together sometimes (might try "Among Us"). I said, 'DM me if you want to chat or hang,' to a bunch of former Discord friends who are local, yet I don't expect to hear from again tbh.

Uninstalled everything and quit some 8 Discord channels until further notice to focus on finishing my career certifications, and spend my formerly abyss-casted hours into cardio while finishing the last 1/4th of Propotkin on audiobook.

TL;DR: Fuck competition-based video games that aren't named Mario Party. I'm ignorant for thinking I could handle any game without being turned toxic like my tendencies incline me. Inject more theory while running, love one another (except libs, conservatives and cops)

    • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      This is why I play single player or gran turismo sport multiplayer, it has no voice chat so minimal toxicity, and matches players with a similar skill level to you so you don't get dunked on by MLG gamer pro 420 69 assholes.

        • btr2mrw [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          it's for sure not a "western centric" mentality. anyone who has played against Chinese players in pubg or any other competitive game knows they love overkill as well, often to the point of using aimbots or other hacks. its just that gamer brain transcending national borders.

        • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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          4 years ago

          I mean I don't get me wrong people still have fun being good at games and "dunking", but the skill tiers in Gran Turismo Sport (brim F to S) make it impossible for the dunking to be too bad unless someone is smurfing (purposely keeping their skill level low to dunk in others). I'm just not a fan of most PvP / multiplayer in general, as I usually suck and it can get very toxic

  • AFineWayToDie [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I work for the publisher of an old PvP-focused freemium MMORPG. I interact with the players daily, and do what I can to address their concerns about the game. I can tell the game was developed with passion and love, but it has passed on to something like its 7th subsequent development studio, who obviously just wants to squeeze as many dollars as they can out of its decaying corpse and dwindling player base.

    I can tell that, despite its shitty business model, the players are really passionate about this game, and I desperately want to implement even minor changes that will enhance their enjoyment of it. But it's either the greed, incompetence, or utter apathy of the developers that keeps any substantial change from happening.

    And I still see people seethe with anger over the competitive aspects of it, and pour hundreds of dollars into it. And I feel like shit for the small part I play in this exploitative business model, but it's still the only job I've ever had which doesn't absolutely ravage my mental health, and I gotta eat.