it feels obvious when i say it out loud but please don't do this to yourself
though if you stop you're probably going to become trans. fair warning
Is that a thing lol, I burned out and quit my job, then realized I was a woman within a month.
idk, i told myself to start respecting myself for the first time in my life and within 3 weeks my pronouns were she/her, so maybe?
If you want to summarise my internal experience in two images, it's that one and this one:
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Even understanding you have autism/ADHD doesn't rid yourself of this feeling, you're just better at forgiving yourself for it.
alternatively read Laziness Does Not Exist and Unlearning Shame and understand that it's okay to chill when your body is sending you signals that you need to rest
Hey comrade, I struggle with this. I found the first book, but I cannot find the second one you mentioned, by what author is it?
Not OP but it's likely this one? https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/723344/unlearning-shame-by-devon-price-phd/
what do you do if your body always tells you to rest even if you rest
I get home and either basically or literally go to bed. On my days off I just want to do the mindless light entertainment you usually would after work. Starting to look around and wonder if I got caught in a trap.
Alternatively you could stop listening to coaches and those shitty self-improvement videos and all their equivalent.
>be on a multi-year 24/7 grindset
"Hey, can anyone explain to me why I have been reduced to a nub??"
This was me my whole life until I got the one disease where pushing yourself literally causes muscle necrosis
Damn that is such a good emodiment of how I feel during 90% of my free time.
are you my therapist because i just talked about this with her yesterday
I've been pushing myself in the wrong direction and now im lost.
One of the biggest game changers in my life was when my therapist noticed this in me, cause I surely didn't and still felt like I wasn't trying hard enough
Awful feeling. You feel guilty because you feel like you're not doing enough, which kills your motivation, and it ends up trapping you in a cycle.
Me all of February. I was kind of a zombie for 2 straight weeks in March.
I've been so happy to get through last winter without any malaise. I definitely made changes to my diet and added in using a "happy light", and overall have felt like actively trying to counteract that feeling (specifically in terms of seasonal depression) has seemed to pay off. At the very least, I would suggest people who feel this way specifically in the winter should try depression lights and taking things like omega-3 supplements (or modifying your diet). Can't say its truly effective but anything helps Edit: also fiber intake. Supplementing fiber has pretty much eradicated my problems with IBS, and I've made serious effort to getting back into cooking and generally adding much more fiber into my diet
