as an INTJ, I knew it would be difficult to make this relationship work. for year's she's been saying such nonsense as "Why can't I use the light switches, I don't want to use a dumb app". Now she's finally learning about the power of home automation. I can see she's already created new automations that also send notifications to her masseuse, the pool cleaner, the oat milkman, and Chelsea Manning. Tomorrow, I agreed I'd show her how to make "scenes" with the bedroom smart lights.
I know this is a bit but there are smart switches you can buy that let you use your voice, and your esfj wife use a physical switch.
her personal trainer is a switch
Nintendo's lawyers are already on the case.