I step out of Hexbear and into another instance for once and immediately get this shit lmao
I was letting off some steam about how sick and tired I am about working a shit job to make some asshole rich, and I made an off hand remark about how my employer probably belongs in a gulag. Further down the reply chain, this lemmitor asshole shows up to send me a whole tirade full of faux concern, breaking out the psychoanalysis to say I'm just an extremist full of unjustified hatred because I must be a bitter loser. Somehow they come up with this nuclear hot take comparing my anger at the capitalist class to a Christian fundamentalist hating gay people.
But the fucking cherry on the top here is sending me this comment as their very first interaction with me and proceeding to instantly block me to deny me the chance to reply at all. I've seen others use the block feature as a means of getting the last word in, but never to get both the first and last word in at the same time. And in the end, this self-unaware lib ends up calling me the overly self righteous one. Perfect.
Tbh, what gets me is that they were so fucking close to getting it. They almost came to an accurate understanding of the fact that my material conditions as a poor person getting fucked over day in and day out by my employer stealing my labor will heavily inform my politics. But of course they never quite reach that point, instead bizarrely veering off into psychologizing me, and acting like this is all just some sort of character flaw on my part.
Rule one: https://hexbear.net/comment/4738025
I report any incidence of queerphobia or other hate speech immediately, but these reports will always end up with hexbear mods because i am not interested in federation and browse local only. I'm fine with how our mods handle these reports, i've never had anything to complain about in that regard, but i can only report after somebody has attacked my comrades, my community or myself, so if i see another instance causing problems over and over again and making our queer comms less safe, i will speak out about that.
It is also kinda strange to me that you are invoking the anti-sectarian and "remember the human" rules here when i'm specifically adressing reactionary hate speech. Such speech enjoys zero protection on here, bigots cannot hide behind the rules you cite, i know from experience that this is widely understood both by the userbase and our moderation teams. This is a radical queer safer space, not some liberal salon, we do not tone police marginalized people, we do not demand civility towards queerphobes, ableists, misogynists and racists, and anti-sectarianism does not extend to middle of the road policies, particularly not when they are openly capitalist or imperialist.
FYI, if you report one of our users commenting on your instance, we would still get a report usually, unless there is something unique about the Hexbear instance in that regard. And I haven't seen many reports like that in a long time, usually because we ban those type of users immediately. I'm glad you are reporting people like that, and I'd like to know about it if it does occur. We don't tolerate any transphobic or homophobic content from our users.
Nobody is arguing with you that hate speech should be allowable. But you aren't addressing hate speech, you are accusing our whole instance of being a "non-leftist instance" because you claim some of our users have displayed queerphobia or other hate speech in the past. But you've given us no evidence or information we can act upon. It certainly feels like sectarianism when you are jumping straight to basically accusing our whole instance of not being "left enough" on this limited basis.
I just feel it would be more productive to work together to address these sort of issues, rather than being so hostile. I don't care how much more left you are than me, but I do care about how we moderate our instance, and if we can do it better then I'm open to suggestions.
It's really not "productive" at all how you're handling this when @Simon@lemmy.dbzer0.com was banned for homophobia just 5 days ago, when i've seen a transphobe from db0 get banned in the same timeframe (sorry i'm not giving you names and receipts on that one, it was something with 420 in the username, not gonna sift through all the shit in the modlog any longer) and you then accuse me of making up fake queerphobia claims for "sectarian reasons". In fact it's an incredibly shitty and hurtful thing to deny my experience with bigottry from your instance like that, but your dismissiveness fits well with what i've seen from you people.
I'd kindly ask you to discuss with our mod team if cross-instance reporting works correctly, which is all i have left to say on the matter because i honestly see no option but to disengage from this conversation. I'm out of here.
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Yeah, but that still leaves Unruffled@lemmy.dbzer0.com saying "using gay as an insult actually isn't homophobic" and seeing nothing wrong with one of their users posting such a take in a thread about queer liberation, a thread where the OP expressed his happyness about not being insulted as gay anymore when he doesn't bother to meet standards of toxic masculinity. That's the context the homophobic post in question was originally posted in, just to show you how out of place and tone deaf and shitty that take was. And Unruffled is like "hey, i see nothing wrong with any of that", directly quotes the homophobia apologia that accuses our comrade of taking it too seriously for "being insecure about his sexuality" and expressly agrees with all of it, all so he can continue to pester me with inane bullshit about me being sectarian just because i had the audacity to state my subjective and entirely honest impression that dbzer0 users never came off as leftists to me, which seems to have aggravated him so much that he, as a gay man, excuses homophobia to disprove my point.
I'm not even beginning to get into the absolutely insufferable amount of debate pervertry and the total lack of principle and self respect necessary to act the way he did, it's damning enough that he's shown his entire ass by excusing classic homophobic talking points and toxic masculinity while using his own gay identity as a shield. That's just fucking vile. I know fully well why our comrade started that thread the quoted take was posted in, i've been called gay and the f-slur all my life even before i came out as a trans woman. You do not get hit with this shit by people who "have nothing against gay people", you get hit with that shit because you do not meet cishetnormative policing of assigned male gender roles, which of fucking course also expressly targets gayness in itself, just not exclusively so, because it serves a wider purpose in upholding patriarchal notions of masculinity, but of course that attitude has always been inseperable from homophobia, it was just that it was so widely accepted and normalized that people engaging in it could easily deny their homophobic sentiments and their own participation in the opression of queerness.
And Unruffled openly states, i am quoting him verbatim now, "this is a perfectly reasonable take and not homophobic at all". What's he gonna do next when he comes back from his 14 day ban? Give out free F-slur passes?
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Did you see the comment in the OP? What do you think of that just going unchallenged? db0 is being a useless contrarian as they usually are, but are you more of an adult?
There's no need to shake our comrade here for receipts when we have vile shit right in front of us that is evidently A-OK in the view of the administration.
I can't see any examples of homophobia or hate speech in the OPs post. All OP seem to be doing is pointing out how toxic your ideology is, where anyone not in the hexbear 'club' is deemed to be the enemy. This has been pointed out on many previous occasions and remains true in large part to this day. I will acknowledge that there are also perfectly reasonable hexbear users, but unfortunately they often get drowned out by all the fanatics.
I don't care about litigating about Hexbear, you can hate it or whatever. What I am complaining about is the wizardbeard guy explicitly disparaging downtrodden people in favor of those who are doing well in the status quo. It's immensely social darwinist, to say nothing of the fact that even anarchists, to my understanding, care about things being counterrevolutionary.
Like, isn't the whole point of anarchism that the status quo is fucked and needs to be drastically changed? Don't you proudly self-identify as a type of radical [i.e. "extremist"]? If so, then doesn't this guy making blanket statements about extremists being scum seem to represent an issue?
But you are twisting his words. He never mentioned 'downtrodden' or 'poor' or 'disadvantaged' or anything similar anywhere in his comments. His exact wording was "[You] have nothing good going on in [your] life", which could mean in your personal life, or any number of things. But of course it was uncharitably interpreted. He used similar phrasing for religious fanatics too.
The point of anarchism isn't to replace one ideologically driven system where workers suffer with another ideological system where workers also suffer. It's to dismantle the apparatus of state and institutions that enforce and police ideology.
No one actually says this, put the Bakunin away. My point is that anarchists are their own category of extremists and you can clearly see what he thinks of you. If you still want to cape for that, go right ahead I guess.
It's wild how you guys are so excited to jump to redbashing when it has nothing to do with the subject. Keep telling me about intolerant tankies (actually don't, I don't give a shit what you think).