I wonder what the ethnic breakdown of the patients are because anecdotally I know a few East and South Asian tech guys who are convinced that their inability to land a date is their height. They're mostly not even tech bro giga chuds, so sometimes I wonder if being short and a PoC double fucks you in the dating market.
It really doesn't help that it's still pretty common to see women put shit like "no one under 6 foot" in their bios and just be accepted as normal while a guy would be (justifiably) seen as a misogynist for specifying "D cup or above" or "60kg or under" or some shit.
tbh, seeing someone say ‘no one under 6 foot’ is a great way of telling on themselves.
True! That said, it's still demoralizing to see that kind of thing being so common. By analogy, if a company I considered applying for a job with said "no Asians" in their job listing, they would be telling on themselves too, but that shit is rightfully illegal and socially taboo.
On the other hand, I'm well over 6 foot and I've never matched with one of hose "6 foot or taller" women, so I assume that they've also got less socially acceptable criteria going on.
For a man anyway. I think that racism is heavily gendered when it comes to dating. For example, Asian women find it easier than Asian men to get a date. Conversely, I've heard black women complain about how much easier it is for a black man to get a date than a black woman.
It's all bullshit racism, but sometimes a stereotype of a racial group benefits one gender of that group and disadvantages the other.
one time I saw someone say that in terms of like, beauty standards and conventional views of attractiveness black women and Asian men have it the worst (in the US)
I'm not either of these and I don't date but I think about that sometimes. not a very pleasant topic to reflect on frankly
I wonder what the ethnic breakdown of the patients are because anecdotally I know a few East and South Asian tech guys who are convinced that their inability to land a date is their height. They're mostly not even tech bro giga chuds, so sometimes I wonder if being short and a PoC double fucks you in the dating market.
It really doesn't help that it's still pretty common to see women put shit like "no one under 6 foot" in their bios and just be accepted as normal while a guy would be (justifiably) seen as a misogynist for specifying "D cup or above" or "60kg or under" or some shit.
tbh, seeing someone say 'no one under 6 foot' is a great way of telling on themselves.
Serious sympathies to anyone who's been bullied for their heights, beauty standards are bullshit.
True! That said, it's still demoralizing to see that kind of thing being so common. By analogy, if a company I considered applying for a job with said "no Asians" in their job listing, they would be telling on themselves too, but that shit is rightfully illegal and socially taboo.
On the other hand, I'm well over 6 foot and I've never matched with one of hose "6 foot or taller" women, so I assume that they've also got less socially acceptable criteria going on.
Being short and a POC completely fucks you on dating apps, you'd be lucky to have any success.
I've managed pretty well, but I get frequently told that my face makes up for the lack of height. It always comes across as a backhanded compliment.
For a man anyway. I think that racism is heavily gendered when it comes to dating. For example, Asian women find it easier than Asian men to get a date. Conversely, I've heard black women complain about how much easier it is for a black man to get a date than a black woman.
It's all bullshit racism, but sometimes a stereotype of a racial group benefits one gender of that group and disadvantages the other.
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Shhhhhh, you'll summon the Boba Liberals.
one time I saw someone say that in terms of like, beauty standards and conventional views of attractiveness black women and Asian men have it the worst (in the US)
I'm not either of these and I don't date but I think about that sometimes. not a very pleasant topic to reflect on frankly
and obviously the situation for Asian women and black men is also terrible but for a different reason
IDK how the attractiveness dynamics for different groups of gender nonconforming people shakes out. maybe it's better in some way