No doxxing of course. And I don't want people getting nsfw without warning. A comrade made a beautiful comment and I want to do more to welcome conversations if I can.

And sometimes we can use a little catharsis.

  • trashcandiva [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I watch more internet pornography than I'm comfortable with, I have trouble resisting the urge to do so, and I'm too ashamed to talk about it with anybody IRL. I feel like it negatively affects my self esteem, self image, and the way I look at people in the world.

      • trashcandiva [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Not a dumb question at all comrade, I've been in therapy for years and struggle with depression which I see as linked and causal to this issue.

        It's tough because other things (low self-esteem etc) you can discuss with other people in your life freely, whereas this one is pretty impossible (or at least humiliating) to try to enlist your friends and family as a support group.

        So, this is where my therapist makes their money, lol

    • krakhead [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      I gotchu fam. Read this. Cured my addiction. Should help with yours.

      Also, unironically #AllPornIsBad. Those who disagree fite me. :fidel-bat:

      • ButtBidet [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Maybe I'm wrong, but OC stuff where the poster isn't a seller feels to be not evil. Lots of :reddit-logo: pages are just filled with bored people. Although there's a massive middle class suburbia vibe that isn't really attractive to me. Anyhow, I'm not trying to struggle session. I'm just wondering what your thoughts are on bored people posting.

      • trashcandiva [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Thank u comrade :meow-hug: I will start reading this.

        I don't know if I agree that all porn is bad, but is all porn bad for me? Probably, yes

    • Soap_Owl [any]
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      2 years ago

      This seems like a self limiting problem. Not to be rude but are you wanking it correctly? If you are having frequent needs that cannot be controlled it could be a sign that you aren't actually getting done whst your body needs. Or like, maybe some depression or a hormone imbalance.

      Try switching up your routine and see if that helps. Switch to a more active style and see if the extra exertion helps balance your humors

        • Soap_Owl [any]
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          2 years ago

          I dunno, I switched up stances amback in the day and it changed my relationship with my body so it is something to think about if you are unhappy with current results

          • trashcandiva [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            It's not a physical thing for me but mental - a kind of uncontrollable desire to consume that content, and the mindspace it takes up even when I'm not looking at it.

            I'm actually in a relationship which makes it more complicated. Affects my libido, desires, etc.

            It's a whole thing