So umm there's this girl in my school and she's really cute and I like her what should I do

  • Owl [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    Go up to her and say "You're cute, want to get coffee?" If you're self-perceptive enough to know why you think she's cute, replace "You're cute" with a legit compliment like "I like how you matched your shoes to your earrings" or whatever. If you don't drink coffee, pick something else. If you've never talked to her, replace "Want to get coffee?" with "What's your name?"

    Compliment (cute), communicate intent (starting a conversation with a compliment is clear enough) a clear plan (coffee) and low stakes (coffee).

    You could complicate this, but if she's interested in you it'll work, and if she's not then nothing will. So do the short version and be mortified at yourself later (which you will be success or fail).

      • Owl [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Not as much.

        Asking earlier is definitely better when possible. It's not always an option though; I know I take ages to figure out I like someone. (So if someone has good advice for this situation I could use it myself.)

        The best advice I have is just to gradually flirt more. When it's really blatant on your end and moderately clear on theirs, then, mid-through-blatant-flirting, ask them out on an obvious date. Flirting is sort of like... plausible deniability for our own feelings so we can express them without as much emotional risk. And there's always an illusion of transparency, which is why you want to keep going until your side is very very obvious (because it's less obvious on the other end).