So I got dumped in 2014. I discovered Bill Burr's You People Are All The Same standup routine, and for my broken hearted self then, it spoke to me. For those of you don't know, Burr jokes about women unable to have a rational argument, and using cheap debate tricks and emotional ploys to win arguments with men. Sorry, but the place I was in wasn't great. My thinking towards Burr in early 2015 was "OMG this guy is funny", late 2015 was "this is funny, but problematic", then in 2016 "OMG this guy is a fascist".
Another time I randomly found a dating app and profile on a girlfriend's phone when I was trying to connect her phone to the smart TV. There was a 45 minute space of time where I channeled all the hurt I ever felt in my past, and I started to think "yes all women are inherently selfish and deceitful". For that time, I was quite literally open to red-pill ideology. Thankfully I shook out of it. Having a support network to whinge about my pain helped too.
One bazillion percent, the dudes in my life have been worse than the women. Long term misogyny seems impossible.
I used to be way into the show Forensics Files and probably 95% of the time the murderer ended up being the husband/boyfriend. It got to be so predictable that it pretty much ruined any plot surprises in the show. So, anyways, while people can be shitty regardless of gender, it’s incredibly difficult to think about stuff like that (and endless other examples) and also have the idea that women are somehow more evil than men.
Also, I think self-crit posts like this are great and should be encouraged, so much thanks for sharing.
Ya I think that part of the reason that woman murder stories are interesting is that they're so rare. Like when a mother kills her kids, it's repeat on TV for a decade. While with dads, it's basically a daily occurrence.