So I got dumped in 2014. I discovered Bill Burr's You People Are All The Same standup routine, and for my broken hearted self then, it spoke to me. For those of you don't know, Burr jokes about women unable to have a rational argument, and using cheap debate tricks and emotional ploys to win arguments with men. Sorry, but the place I was in wasn't great. My thinking towards Burr in early 2015 was "OMG this guy is funny", late 2015 was "this is funny, but problematic", then in 2016 "OMG this guy is a fascist".

Another time I randomly found a dating app and profile on a girlfriend's phone when I was trying to connect her phone to the smart TV. There was a 45 minute space of time where I channeled all the hurt I ever felt in my past, and I started to think "yes all women are inherently selfish and deceitful". For that time, I was quite literally open to red-pill ideology. Thankfully I shook out of it. Having a support network to whinge about my pain helped too.

One bazillion percent, the dudes in my life have been worse than the women. Long term misogyny seems impossible.

  • ButtBidet [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Let me tell another story. There was this prof in my grad program way back. He was the cool professor. He'd drink and play snooker with us on Fridays after class. He was literally my hero at that time.

    Anyhow, the guy married an undergraduate when he was doing his PhD (now considered pretty bad). There was maybe a 15 year age difference. Long story short, he was putting a lot of labour in to make the relationship work. They had kids and the guy made his family his identity (not a bad thing).

    So apparently the wife was cheating on her older husband like crazy. Honestly I probably would too. At some point, they got divorced and it seems like she got a decent size of his assets.

    So the guy starts drinking A LOT. He also swears way more and gets angry at everything. He posts a lot of Facebook selfies of him hanging out with the working women outside of the strip club. (is there a nicer way to say this?). He gets sacked from his job. Basically, he lost it. We had a lot of long convos where I tried to keep him sane and away from suicide.

    So the guy posts a lot if red pill shit on Facebook. I definitely debated him a bit. Maybe I shouldn't have. Late on Saturday night, he's certainly drunk, he posts that "feminists are threatening my family". I'm like, dude, post screenshots. Guy blocked me. We haven't talked since. Mutual friends tell me that he's posting some real :reddit-logo: level shit on his fb page. It's kinda sad because he's never gonna work for a uni ever again, and his kids are materially struggling.